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Friday night mom drove dad, me and Aaron and his dad down to get the boat! We stayed overnight in a motel and Aaron and I shared a room and the dads shared a room. I saw Aaron naked but nothing happened. Im not sure about Aaron yet. So Saturday we got the boat and set sail northwards and just learned how she handles and it was totally a great time. Aaron and I shared the forward vee cabin and the dads slept in the main cabin. The galley is cool and I was the cabin boy as usual and everybody liked the meals I made.
We docked at our pier on Sunday afternoon and scrubbed down the boat and got things stowed away. We are all tired and sunburned but we all felt perfect. It was an awesome time. I asked dad when I could go out with friends and he said when im 16. Im like why does everything have to wait until Im 16????
Sharon who is Mitchs cousin I met at the seder called and left this long involved message about wanting to go out and Im like o God more drama. Let a girl feel your dick one time and suddenly she wants to go out. Like I have a way to take her out anywhere. Asking rents for date rides is so totally lame.
School now then library then homework then sleep.
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Ya know, I am really sorry your life is so terrible...LOL. Time spent with someone you admire, the wind in your hair and the sun on your back, it doesn't get much better than that.
Your father is right, you ought to be sixteen, and you ought to take the boating safety course and get yourself certified. You'll discover there are several levels of courses, work you way up, get that captain's rating and your father won't worry about you. (or the expensive boat ;-D )
As for girls, that's an issue you will face throughout high school. If you spend a lot of time around a boy and he has a sister you may discover she thinks you are there looking for her attentions. Be polite, be kind, and at some point get across the message that you don't date friend's sisters. Gay or straight it's a bad idea because if something goes wrong then you'll discover that friendship is not as strong a bond as family.
Now if Aaron was sunburned I'm sure you offered to put sunscreen on his back, don't miss the opportunities when they happen. And for goodness sake, stop bitching about how miserable your life is now. 
Age appears to be best in four things; old wood best to burn, old wine to drink, old friends to trust, and old authors to read. (Sir Francis Bacon 1561-1626)
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thanks for totally not spending any time online to talk to me, my advice and presence in ur life feels totally not used, i mean im still here for you, but the least you could do is email to say hi...
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I mean its not like I have any serious problems or issues to talk about. I would not be writing to you with any different stuff than what I have said here. I didnt mean to hurt your feelings. I think I will just back out of here anyway its one less thing to worry about.
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Thanks Jordan. Great message. Now you've made someone who made us cheerful decide to go. When this thing says it;s a messageboard, it does not mean it is for you to whinge at other members because they haven't been in touch with you. That's what email is for.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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timmy
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I don't ask folk to stay, nor do I often welcome them. Staying, going, coming back, coming in the first place, that is everyone's right. I just think it might be going for the wrong reason if you go because Jordan lays a guilt trip on you for reasons of his own. Go or come back as you wish. But do it for your own reasons, not someone else's
[Updated on: Tue, 13 April 2010 20:36]
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Timmy, Jordan is clearly someone in need of contact and friendship.
Cabinboy, if you have the time and the inclination it would be nice if you could be in touch with Jordan. It would be a mitzvah (you can ask Mitch what that means). But only if you want to and when you want to.
Just my twopennyworth,
J F R
The paradox has often been noted that the United States, founded in secularism, is now the most religiose country in Christendom, while England, with an established church headed by its constitutional monarch, is among the least. (Richard Dawkins, 2006)
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timmy
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Indeed he is. So this is a good lesson for him to learn. One does not acquire friends in the scholyard by asking "Will you play with me?" one acquires them by asking "May I play with you?"
One can drive one's friends away by pushing them too hard or by being too high maintenance, or by being too needy. Embarrassing them into getting into contact pushed them away pretty hard as evidenced by Cabinboy's post about going away from here.
So he has, I hope, learned that actions have outcomes. In the global scheme of things this is a small action with a small outcome, but it is a negative outcome. It is a lesson worth learning, but not at someone else's expense.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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my issue wasnt that CB wasnt online, I can understand him being not online, having a life yadaa yadaa, my issue lay with how he gets online talks to the board, but i wait and hes not on to talk to me. I understand that I woulda gotten the same board spiel but maybe I myself enjoyed talking to you. I enjoy companionship after all I am human and him not making time to atleast say hi or reply to my emails(which in the last while I had sent) it just annoys me.
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timmy
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Then tell him in private by email. This is not the medium to do it. He says he's going. That's his right. But it's also going for the wrong reasons. And yet this message of yours simply does more to push him away.
Your happiness is not controlled by his actions, nor is his happiness controlled by your actions. But you have let this become large in your mind and thus you have laid and are continuing to lay a guilt trip on him. And by doing that you are trying to control him even if you don't realise it.
You cant force people to talk to you, You can't make them play with you. But you might be able to talk to them and play with them.
You're a decent, pleasant lad. You're worth getting to know. But you put up huge barriers, some of which show you to be pretty high maintenance.
I had a friend once who used to say "I must see friendship from you to me if I am to show you friendship." He treated friendship as a bargaining chip. His friendship was ownership. He used to offer one lad enormously expensive presents to win his friendship and then get a little weird when they were rejected because he was unable to own the lad. The presents were a drop in the ocean for him - he is very wealthy - rather like buying a cup of coffee, but they were overwhelming for the intended recipient.
He failed badly. Control is not friendship. Ownership is not friendship. And trying to control someone in public is a form of bullying.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Another totally awesome weekend 
Well done Jordan 
