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The subject is bullying, the results are incredibly sad.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E1LG9NymhTE
Look at the young faces in the audience, they know what happened is wrong. This is a tragedy for this man and his family, but look what he does with his anguish...he teaches. I have the utmost respect for his courage.
Age appears to be best in four things; old wood best to burn, old wine to drink, old friends to trust, and old authors to read. (Sir Francis Bacon 1561-1626)
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... devolve from tragic circumstances; but, the sad truth is that, in all likelihood, an hour after the assembly and this man's presentation (seen in through this vidéo), the greater majority of the children exhibiting so much empathy for and remorse over his son's death, will have moved on and forgotten all about both him and his son; and the bullying will continue.
Yes, we need more individuals to come forward and collectively share their pain, and suffering, arising from such tragedy; but, we need far more to have proactive policies in place, and zero-tolerance for abusive behavior regardless of it's nature by every stake-holder, whether that be a child, a parent or other adult, a guardian, a school official, a community worker, the police, the courts or whatever.
Warren C. E. Austin
The Gay Deceiver
Toronto, Canada
"... comme recherché qu'un délice callipygian"
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I read about Ryan's story some time ago. It's a part of some "work" I;ve been doing in Wikipedia expanding a navigation template: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=92O0dA2F7V8 Ryan;s story is linked in there under Other abuse contexts>Cyberbullying
It's very easy to bully someone by accident, let alone on purpose. It's easy to play a joke on someone and let your own cleverness get out of hand. It used to be easy to do it by mail, today it's just faster online.
Accidental or on purpose, bullying is unlikely to stop unless schools have a climate that is so hostile to bullying that it cannot flourish. I watched the video and thought "Why didn't the parents change the school?"
Then I thought back to my son's schooling. The school he attended from rising 5 to 13 was run by a martinet headmaster. He was a bully himself. He employed more than one bullying staff member, and he worshipped the sporty kids, the ones who seemed to tend to bully. And my son never told us how much he was bullied there, so we never knew.
The bits we knew of we dealt with, but the head said he had no need of an anti-bullying policy because there was no bullying. We looked for a new school. His was the best in the area, the best of a bad bunch. There was no board of governors. The head owns the school to this day. He thinks he is a fine man.
Until schools make a truly safe environment for kids then the bullies will always flourish.
It's the same with the workplace. I've been bullied unmercifully at work, so much so that I was in a state of physical trembling with fear at going in each day, so much so that I had to get beta blockers to slow the heart rate so that I could defend myself. The bully was my bitch of a boss, an incompetent manager who was threatened by the highly competent team she was hired to manage. She bullied each of us, one at a time, and she won in each case. Who says that women can multi-task?
My son and I discussed his being bullied. He said that he had reasoned that the school would do nothing and we could do nothing, so he would ride it out until he changed schools as planned at 13. He knew how to fight, didn't, but would, if necessary, hurt any bully so badly that he would not come back for more. He knew he;d be in trouble, but knew that it truly didn't matter.
I was eventually fired. The bitch won. But I stopped feeling ill, and I am now retired. She is not!
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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