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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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I mean I have some wild and extreme ones. Really wild and really extreme. Ones that will never be enacted, even with role play. And no i do not mean eating babies!
These are fantasies I feel nervous about even sharing with the people who understand me.
I suspect we all have them. What do they mean? Are they good or harmful?
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Toe is in the water |
Location: Netherlands
Registered: April 2002
Messages: 81
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I think fantasies are a good thing, sometimes when I allow my mind to wander they get pretty extreme and I am left to wonder where they came from but they've never harmed me or anyone else. Once the need for the fantasie is gone, so is the fantasie, untill next time. I think everybody has dark parts in their personality, pushing them away would be harmful, allowing yourself to fantasize.... *shrugs* I really see no harm in that.
So far I have never felt the need to share my fantasies with anyone.
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Steve
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Really getting into it |
Location: London, England
Registered: November 2006
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Fantasies are harmless as long as they remain in one's imagination alone. Sometimes they have a positive function of releasing emotional tension. For reasons for which I have no explanation I suspect that a fantasy related to someone else could cease to be an effective fantasy. Just a hunch.
The only thing that I can think would be psychologically wrong with fantasizing would be a conscious effort not to - not to give the emotional apparatus this avenue of harmless expression.
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"Always forgive your enemies...nothing annoys them quite so much." Oscar Wilde
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marc
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Needs to get a life! |
Registered: March 2003
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Fantasies can help vent pent up frustrations and even bring about mild euphoria.
Go for it Tim....
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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.... except "effective fantasy", no such thing really. Though fantasies that you play out in real life, cease to be fantasies, they are seldom as good as when only in our minds.
Even somewhat extreem ones, can be a healthy outlet. As long as know one is harmed. Let em happen baby!
"Be excellent to each other, and, party on dudes"!
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Darren
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Registered: January 1970
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A world without fantacy would be sad indeed. As long as they don't become real, no harm can bedone (as other's have said). Sharing your fantacies can be another issue, as that requires considerable trust with the receiving party.
My wife and I shared some of our "hidden" fantacies and it was a very nice experience because we did not judge each other.
Cheers,
Darren
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