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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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When did you last help another soul who was struggling with the challenges created by his sexuality? I mean you. When did you last truly help someone?
And why did you help them?
[NW, I think I can take your answer as a given. I know, among other things you are doing this currently, but that does not stop you answering if you wish.]
[Updated on: Tue, 03 August 2010 23:19]
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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JimB
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Registered: December 2006
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The week before last.
Why? Certainly not for personal gain; he had nothing but needs.
Why? Because when we share our abundance good things happen to us in return.
Why? Because it makes me happy to have made someone's life brighter.
JimB
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timmy wrote:
When did you last help another soul who was struggling with the challenges created by his sexuality? I mean you. When did you last truly help someone?
Sigh. In some way or another I think I help people in need almost every day of my life - either directly because they seek my support and advice or indirectly because they read things that I have published. However, I do not see the relevance of this question: must I help someone in order to be acceptable in this forum? What if I am the one who needs the help?
And why did you help them?
Oh, come on! I help them because they are human beings crying out for help. Why else?
J F R
The paradox has often been noted that the United States, founded in secularism, is now the most religiose country in Christendom, while England, with an established church headed by its constitutional monarch, is among the least. (Richard Dawkins, 2006)
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Well, my beloved "honorary foster-son" is of course a major part of my everyday life, though sexuality is by no means the greatest of his problems (we're currently waiting for a hospital bed for today or tomorrow: major health issues with a significant risk of death within the next 9 months if we can't get to the root of the problem).
And, as JFR says, helping people is just something that one does ... out of a common, shared, humanity. But on the specific subject of sexuality, I simply don't know! I'm an out gay man, and come into all kinds of contact with all kinds of people ... for those kids that have problems about sexual orientation, seeing me as out and proud and competent at work, or in a family context, is probably helpful, even if we never discuss it. I have my suspicions that our last intern (from a rather narrow mid-western USA University) had her ideas about gay men turned on their head by working for me - but she never raised the topic, and it wouldn't have been appropriate for me to do so.
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
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The last time someone admitted to me that he was struggling with challenges. But I don't remember when that was; not this year anyway.
And I helped them because they made their need known; don't we all?
But, of course, it is possible that I've helped someone unknowingly. I must know two or three hundred people well enough to remember their names and I think I only know one of them to be gay (and he's not 'out') so there are probably half a dozen or more that are gay men and I don't know it.
Love,
Anthony
PS Why did you ask?
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