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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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Does society look on these older/younger relationships any differently? If so, why?
male/female
female/male
male/male
female/female
Is there an age difference where the relationship is acceptable?
Does it depend on the age of either of the participants? If so which?
Does it matter to society who initiated the relationship?
What if both are under the age of sexual consent?
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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timmy wrote:
> Does society look on these older/younger relationships any differently? If so, why?
I'm not sure that "society" actually has a coherent view.
My own experience, as a 55-year-old in a relationship with a 19-year-old (who looks, and often acts, at least four years younger than that), which most people assume is sexual (it isn't physically so, in fact) is that we've met with a very wide variety of reactions.
There are those who (understandably) want to be reassured that the relationship is not predatory / exploitative. There are those who react with horror. There are those who are supportive, recognising that we're both disabled, and support each other in managing our disabilities. And a wide range of reactions encompassing all of the above and more. I don't think it would be very different if the lad was a lass ... though perhaps it would if I were female: in fact, among the lad's street acquiantances (as a group, the least accepting people we know), I'm sure it would be different!
London may have many faults, but the sheer diversity of people it houses does tend to mean that every possible kind of relationship flourishes, and most people who aren't too blinkered will have encountered a wide range of non-standard setups. And - to a large extent - familiarity breeds acceptance. That, unfortunately, probably makes our situation unusual.
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
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saben
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Registered: May 2003
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I was thinking of raising this in my last post.
Lots of us here automatically think guy/guy.
But would we be so tolerant if it was an old man with young girls, I wonder.
Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
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