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icon9.gif random jottings  [message #5699] Tue, 05 November 2002 16:45 Go to next message
timmy

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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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When I was a little kid I was humiliated in school for apparently being unable to sing. This meant that I was told to sing a song I had never heard of, and was then told "You are tone deaf. You may not sing the words or tune, but you must attend the lessons and MIME when the others are singing"

All my life I have been terrified of singing in public, EVEN when drunk

This year I found a course, "Singing from Scratch". It is targeted at those of us who were humiliated. Except it isn't. Instead it is for people who want to join choirs.

Singing is the ONE thing that terrifies me. But this course has also made me angry. Several reasons. Not least of which was the instructor's remark last week "All black men look the same". I thought, "Yes, and doubtless so do all gay ones"

Last week I stopped the course when he said that. I have also complained formally to the University of Reading, who employs him, about racially inappropriate remarks in public forum. This is a formal complaint, and has to pass through the process and be answered.

I was going to persevere with the course, though, but I found I was getting so angry about the instructor's attitude and childish manner that I have complained about other aspects of the course. The upshot is that it is the wrong course, and they do not run the right one. They advertiosed thatit was of people like me, and it is actually to form a choir, not to learn to sing at all.

Pity. I was wondering if I could get him to show homophobia as well as his volunteering of racism. But then probably best not



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
icon6.gif Singing Talent or Lack Thereof.....  [message #5712 is a reply to message #5699] Wed, 06 November 2002 00:38 Go to previous messageGo to next message
smith is currently offline  smith

On fire!

Registered: January 1970
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I had to take chorus in the 8th grade....was mandatory. I was told that I sounded like a strangled cat.....Luckily, I have no desire to be a rock star {{even though Scholar made me one}} Smile

Persevere, timmy. Find another class, another teacher. You MUST, so that you can happily sing when drunk Smile

smith
icon3.gif Re: random jottings  [message #5727 is a reply to message #5699] Wed, 06 November 2002 08:11 Go to previous message
mt is currently offline  mt

Toe is in the water

Registered: November 2002
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A singing lesson? I didn’t think anyone can teach that!
You know? The best way to learn singing is to sit in a soundproof room (if that isn’t available then make sure nobody’s home), crank up the volume and start singing! Just do it! It doesn’t matter if you’re following the tone or not, you’ll get the hang of it soon enough. And there’s something else that will help you immensely; use a mic and record your voice so that you can compare the tone and gauge your performance.
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