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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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I wish I could say who. Perhaps he will. It is emotional and personal trouble
Things in his life have changed suddenly.
He is suffering from stress. His partner of two decades has left. And he is more than upset right now. Please spare a hug and a prayer for him. He is a good friend.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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On fire! |
Registered: March 2012
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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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It is a sad thing to see such a long relationship part.
I hope things can be patched up.
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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I think good thoughts for anyone who deserves it. Especially those I know.
I have many hugs to give to my friends. I'm sending him one now...
-L
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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I am pretty sure you are one of the family here, though I do not know for a fact.
Either way, I want to express my support and love to you in your time of need.
You have friends here, that care so much. I am one of many.
Huge HUGS,
and my prayers,
Kevin
"Be excellent to each other, and, party on dudes"!
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On fire! |
Registered: January 1970
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A hug and a prayer is not much but they come from a heart that is sorrowing for you right now. Please don't let the stress hurt you.
{{{tight hugs}}}
wish it could be more..
smith
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Darren
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Likes it here |
Registered: January 1970
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Having one's life partner leave is something I cannot imagine how tough that is. I offer my sympathy, a big hug and hope that in the end all will work out.
Darren
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Toe is in the water |
Location: Netherlands
Registered: April 2002
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I know of Loss and I can only imagine how you feel about now. I send to you a lot of good wishes, some hugs and Angels to watch over you.
Ashley D
People have a habit of changing your direction through life
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trevor
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Really getting into it |
Registered: November 2002
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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You are my friend, too. I am content, if you each wish it, to act as a go between. If this can be saved....... It is up to each of you. You each have my phone number, but if either of you has lost it, email me and I will send it to you again.
I know he loves you. He knows he has not been easy to live with recently. I guess the ball is in your court, since he seems unable to find you. Or perhaps cannot quite pick up the phone to call your workplace.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Love's a precious thing.
When we find it, we must take great care that we don't lose it... It's awfully hard to recover once misplaced.
Hugs for you too.
-L
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13796
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What I mean is, I refuse to take sides, and I will not break confidences. You are EACH friends of mine and I refuse to lose either of you.
If it ends up that you must part, and for good, I will try to help you part as frineds who canj talk and be friends.
Ideally you can woo and re-win each other again.
I know there are things I do not know. I am also not a counsellor. JUST a friend
What I do know, is that neither of you no "longer loves the other". I think I know what has happened. Or I can surmise.
I know each of you will look here. It is up to each of you. I can do this by email too. In fact maybe email gives each of you a chance to think slowly.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13796
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I have sent you this by email, with a little more:
I see two people who love each other deeply. Neither has actually "left" the other, not even in spirit.
One is deeply troubled, and the other cares so much that he is at his wits' end over how to help him.
Neither of you denies that there is a problem, which is a great first step. Each of you is, in his way, avoiding the other. And I understand the very different reasons for each of you.
The question I have is "How, with the circumstances each of you has told me, will you find the common ground to get back together?"
There is a message in the email that I think is really from one of you to the other. Read it. Quietly
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13796
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Something needs to happen here
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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trevor
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Really getting into it |
Registered: November 2002
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I don't know the details, but it seems to me like 20 years is a long time for us mortals on this earth. There must be something worth salvaging there, especially if you both do still love each other. You must have pulled through some tough times before.
It's been about 20 years with my wife and we are able to save our relationship in spite of my not wanting her sexually, not finding her body beautiful, even though these things are extremely important to her. We just love each other too much and are good friends and have to look at all we would lose, not focusing on our differences, and finding compromise. Sometimes this means swallowing our pride, begging and crying to each other and saying "I'm sorry" when we don't even know what we've done.
Anyway, I will be praying for you - God knows your names and the details, and I'm sure he's given you the ability to overcome this if you both decide it will work and you'll do whatever it takes to make it work.
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