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Location: Bath
Registered: February 2002
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Hello everyone. It's a little strange, as I have never been in this position before. And I have always felt this might happen to someone other than myself. It has taken a great deal of security and reassurance away from the family and I.
Basically, my father has been made redundant. 2 years ago, he joined a fashion company, and made a whole new brand from scratch. There was nothing of this brand before him, and he created it single-handedly, commuted from home to London every day of the working week (5am to 10pm everyday) and built this. He has made an £8 million business from nothing in under a year, and his company has decided to make him redundant, because they want to sell the company off.
It is so unbelievably unfair. My father has worked his arse off for this company, and has built a whole new wing of commerce from nothing. At the moment (it is 11.30pm) we have our lawyers (who are also close personal friends) around discussing what next to do.
It's scary, because I have never known my father, 'out of work' and he has always been there to support the family. It is SUCH a scary position to be in. When my mother phoned me earlier in the afternoon, I felt sick. It was that bad. It was like when I found out that my Uncle has cancer (which was diagnosed as being terminal). I know it is two totally different things, and one is extremely different to the other. But at the same time, it is such a dramatic shift in one's life, it can alter it in such a noticable way.
I don't know. It's just still *so* alien for me to think of my father as 'unemployed'. Albeit he is revelling in the fact that he can sleep in in the morning, and not have to cope with such back-stabbing, political cunts at work. (Sorry for the language).
Anyway, I am going to sleep now, and hopefully think happy thoughts.
Speak later
Dan,
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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The crazy thing about all this is that corproate life sucks. We try for a "career". We work hard and well at our jobs, and we give ourselves to our employers at wholesale prices to be sold at retail prices.
Then something changes.
It isn't our own fault, but the compnay changes its mind. And we get nuked.
I would guess your father is around my age, a little more or a little less. And I would guess he has the same aspirations. Health, happiness, and a secure base for his family. Followed by a retirement that is comfortable.
Last night I was talkiong to someone else who is worried (as I am) about his job. My own employer is just "re-organising" too. He said to me "I don't think I can stand looking over my shoulder for the next 20 or so years until I can retire, waiting for the knife to go into my back."
He's just a regular guy, too. We employees get treated like total crap.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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When I was growing up my dad was out of work for a long while to (several years of odd jobs). And recently I have found my way to the unemployment line. We (my family) never had a lot of money, so these times hit us especially hard.
It's hard, and feels a bit helpless, especially when it's Dad. But with your dad's talent, I am sure he will bounce back fast.
My best wishes to you, your Dad, and your Uncle.
Be well,
Kevin
"Be excellent to each other, and, party on dudes"!
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dan
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Location: Bath
Registered: February 2002
Messages: 107
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Thanks guys. That really means a lot. Really.
Yeah, Corporations really suck.
Although I have to say that Dad has been so much nicer to be around now. For the past few months he has been a complete shit. Which I can now see is the product of the conditions he has been working under.
Hopefully this'll be a good time for some R&R, and he'll come out of it a better person, etc. The good thing is that the "Severance" pay will keep us going for some time, but he wants to find work again, and I have every faith in him to do so. At least he should be able to find something he enjoys, as opposed to dealing with an ultra-political and backstabbing environment.
Anyway, I gotta go. Just had a shower and shave, and am feeling very nice and just ready for some sleep.
Hope everyone's well.
Tim, this board is excellent.
Dan.
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I was lucky with my employment, working for the government but I can appreciate the backstabbing environment of which you speak. I know that this doesn't make it any easier but my thoughts are with you and your family and I hope it works out for you all. Particularly with your relationship with your father.
I never knew mine but I am one and can appreciate the position.
big {{hug}} Mike
Friendship is the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts or measure words
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