I expect simple behaviours here. Friendship, and love. Any advice should be from the perspective of the person asking, not the person giving! We have had to make new membership moderated to combat the huge number of spammers who register
I responded with "Out to friends only", but with the mental reservation that it's really family and friends. I've known some who are out to select friends but not yet to their families - like most polls, there might be some value to a "something not mentioned above" option.
FWIW I'm in the "Out to the world but I want to blend in" category.
As in any poll, it's only representative of those who respond. However, I think the sample size is getting big enough to show up some interesting indicators.
Perhaps because I live in England and because of the people I've associated with, I was a bit surprised by such a large proportion in the "Not out and still scared to death someone will find out" category. I'm rather less surprised to see no one so far has put themselves as "in your face about it".
The relative proportions in the "Out to family only" and "Out to friends only" categories is about what I expected. Personally, I can't imagine coming out to family without "testing the waters" with friends first and hopefully getting some reassurance and support from them before deciding whether or not to come out to family. After all, if a friend turns out to be not-so-friendly and even stops being friends then it's sad but one can always find new friends. However, if family take it badly or turn nasty one it's not so easy to avoid them or to find new family.