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icon5.gif Oral sex techniques  [message #72088] Mon, 07 November 2016 11:15 Go to next message
timmy   United Kingdom

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I'm looking for information, please, about oral sex.

I'm particularly looking for information on the 'deep throating' exercise.

Please will as many of you who wish and are knowledgeable, help me out with the answers to my perplexity. And note, that, like so many of our younger readers, I have no real experience in this area.

My first thought is as a recipient. I understand the idea of the tongue swirling around sensitive parts of the glans, bringing the recipient pleasure as they head towards orgasm. I've experienced this and find it enjoyable. Take the head of the penis past the mouth and into the throat and I wonder whether the throat is "just another wet tube" which could, frankly, be a Fleshlight. Why is it desirable to be deep throated?

As a giver of head, in my fantasies at least, I like the idea of licking, teasing and sucking. I'm not too sure about the taste of seminal fluid, but, in the heat of things I don't expect I'd have a problem with either the flavour or the texture. I suspect it to be an acquired taste, rather like Guinness. I acquired the taste for Guinness, so I don't expect that to be a real problem. What I can't get to grips with is the idea of needing to suppress a very considerable gag reflex just to have this thing thrust into my throat and to make breathing challenging. What I want to do is to savour the event, not have my throat fucked. And, if the other guy just wants a wet tube to stick his dick in, heck, I'll go buy a Fleshlight for him!

So, apart from Linda Lovelace having made it a mainstream concept, what is it about deep throating that makes it seem to be so desirable in stories? Is it as desirable as the stories suggest?



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Re: Oral sex techniques  [message #72208 is a reply to message #72088] Mon, 28 November 2016 16:55 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy   United Kingdom

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I guess everyone here is an oral virgin?



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Re: Oral sex techniques  [message #72212 is a reply to message #72088] Wed, 30 November 2016 10:36 Go to previous messageGo to next message
NW is currently offline  NW   United States

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Well, I'm not quite an oral virgin: I've done just enough oral sex to know that both giving and receiving are things that I simply don't enjoy, and 69 is for me just a mass of confusion that doesn't allow me to appreciate any of the myriad sensations.

For me, seeing someone's face while we're making love is massively important. 

As regards the way that deep-throating, and oral sex in general, seems to be a staple of porn whether written or filmed, I have seen the odd suggestion that it is fairly recent (post 2nd World War), and has been largely driven in popular culture because of the American obsession with "purity", and a girl giving a guy a blowjob "not really counting as sex". In straight circles, there may also be some kind of sexist dominance thing going on, of course.



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Re: Oral sex techniques  [message #72390 is a reply to message #72212] Mon, 02 January 2017 19:32 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Blumoogle is currently offline  Blumoogle   South Africa

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Maybe I can shed some light on the subject. I know this might sound weird, but bare with me. The atraction to deepthroating as a top is actually the sensation caused by involuntary muscle contractions - i.e. gagging - causing intense very tight wetness to rub over the glans.

The only bottom who i have found to really enjoy receiving a deepthroating experience does so because of straightforward masochistic tendencies that are rare, to say the least, and the knowledge that they are providing pleasure is itself psychologically pleasurable, even when it repeatedly induces vomiting or temporary suffocation. The intensity of the gag reflex can be decreased with practice though. I also find that a medium length is far less comfortable than a shorter length or even the proverbial babies' arm.

On the point of the taste of sperm, i never really got used to it, it always tastes like the water from a public heated swimming pool that uses salt and chlorine in combination to keep the water clean. And it sticks in your throat even after swallowing repeatedly like cough medicine.
Re: Oral sex techniques  [message #72393 is a reply to message #72390] Mon, 02 January 2017 22:33 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy   United Kingdom

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Quote:
Blumoogle wrote on Mon, 02 January 2017 19:32

On the point of the taste of sperm, i never really got used to it, it always tastes like the water from a public heated swimming pool that uses salt and chlorine in combination to keep the water clean. And it sticks in your throat even after swallowing repeatedly like cough medicine.

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I think one can get used to most flavours and textures. I don't mind my own, so I surmise that I would not mind another's



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icon11.gif Re: Oral sex techniques  [message #72427 is a reply to message #72088] Wed, 11 January 2017 22:11 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I would say the reason it is most desired is that the nose brushes against the pubic bone area. The receiver then knows it would not go any further and its is a physical as well as a mental goal for any person getting the oral upon them. Understand? 



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Re: Oral sex techniques  [message #72429 is a reply to message #72427] Thu, 12 January 2017 11:18 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy   United Kingdom

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"Quote:"
Oldfoxbob wrote on Wed, 11 January 2017 22:11I would say the reason it is most desired is that the nose brushes against the pubic bone area. The receiver then knows it would not go any further and its is a physical as well as a mental goal for any person getting the oral upon them. Understand? 

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Well, no, I don't understand at all. If the goal is to shove your penis in as far as it will go then I do not want to be involved in that act

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Re: Oral sex techniques  [message #72580 is a reply to message #72088] Sat, 18 February 2017 05:53 Go to previous message
bobynike is currently offline  bobynike   Canada

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I to never tried that technique 
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