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Registered: March 2012
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you are right Timmy it does take time.After the suicide of my friend and comming to grips with the fact that my religious bigoted parents could care less,not atone for their monsterous crime,some 48 years has passed.I still can see his face burned in my memory and if im quiet,still hear jimmys gentle voice.Yes Timmy it takes time but I still feel the pain.--In friendship-- robert
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Garrett
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Toe is in the water |
Registered: January 1970
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I know, I am taking the advice!
But what do I do to change it?
To really change it?
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Garrett
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Registered: January 1970
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I still do need time ,Robert!
Timmys right, stuff always happens to bring back bad memories.
I am trying, and I am taking peoples advice.
Im just not that fast at doing these steps of everybody, it takes time. Ive only been here since like Friday.
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Garrett
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Toe is in the water |
Registered: January 1970
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Im really thinking of writing my lifes story, but its so hard even writing and typing it.
And as for the counselor, theres no one here. I dont want to see a german because I can barely find the words in english, and the americans here wouldnt help. They arent professional (Ive been told) and I dont trust theyre confidentiality. Remember, theyre not in America anymore.
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Garrett
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Toe is in the water |
Registered: January 1970
Messages: 77
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How dare u!
If u dont beleive me then u can say nothing, but its still true. I cant beleive u! Im not the only one out there. Im just one of the only ones coming out and saying it. Do u know how hard it was for me to do this? GOD DAMN! Just go to hell Robert!
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Garrett
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Toe is in the water |
Registered: January 1970
Messages: 77
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Thanx Timmy
I really am tellng the truth, I swear!
Its so hard for me and then some asshole like Robert comes along and says that Im lying! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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today you are able to talk, a little. Tomorrow may not be so easy. the day after may be easier.
Robert has also revealed some of his own pain. What happens here is that people who are hurting can sometimes hurt othgers by accident alomng the way.
Each of us need to recognise this and walk a gentle path. i don't mean "let someone steamroller you" i just mean be gentle
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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saben
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Registered: May 2003
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Please don't give advice to Garrett again, your manner does help some of us and you are a great guy at times, but you have really not helped here...
In case you were wondering, Garrett has shared most of the details with someone, me, I don't know why, I feel a little unqualified, but I was able to just listen, and I can assure everyone that confidentiality will be kept totally, until he is ready for it to be otherwise. He's already come in bounds and strides since he has been here, I think everyone, as much as they are trying to help, well, you're probably applying too much pressure, and Rob, well, too much pressure is an understatement....
I know what he's been through and I'm doing my best to understand it. He wants to write his story so he can share it with everyone, but in due time..
Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
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Registered: March 2012
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gotchya mad didnt I? now do something with your life and make me proud...rob
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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This is not, I think, your forte.
You have many assets, but offering counsel to an abused child does nto seem to be one of them. I appreciate "tough love" but this is not the time or place for it
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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tim...of usa
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Location: buffalo, new york...USA
Registered: July 2002
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do like i did with my lufe story...start out telling it abot some one else not your self. i also come from a back round of abuse mental sexual and physical so i know how hard it is to go back into the mess and keep your head screwed on strait.
give it a shot by writing it about some made up person and soon enough you'll discover the peace and ability to be you .
peace and hugs
tim...of USA
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Garrett
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Toe is in the water |
Registered: January 1970
Messages: 77
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Thanx Shem,
Perfectly put.
I will write my story, but in due time. And Timmy better post it, lol.
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Garrett
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Toe is in the water |
Registered: January 1970
Messages: 77
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Ive already planned to write another story first. Its in Timmys "Project" story, Robin. Then Ill write my story, but as said before, in due time.
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tim...of usa
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Location: buffalo, new york...USA
Registered: July 2002
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yup yup and only you will know when that time is right
peace dude
hugs
tim...of USA
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trevor
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Really getting into it |
Registered: November 2002
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that you've found someone to talk to - there are some wonderful souls here.
By coming back here, "putting up" with all the advice, speaking your mind, and thinking for your self, you have shown courage, strength, and wisdom. You are taking control of life. I do wish I had done that more when I was young. Of course only you know what is best for you at this place in life. I hope we get to know you better over time, as you allow.
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