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Location: London, England
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This is just a thought, a suggestion.
When things get a little hot in here (as they always will) there is a way to deal with it that we have not tried. When I (or you) say something that is outrageously hurtful, one way to treat it could be to ignore it. When the person doing the hurt realizes that no one (but, no one) is responding at all, the matter will probably end there because no one likes talking to himself or herself. Maybe some things need to be met with a resounding silence.
Just my twopennyworth.
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Thanks Steve. Not really a bad idea.
Much Love to you,
Kevin
"Be excellent to each other, and, party on dudes"!
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robert bryce
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Registered: January 1970
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Silence is not love nor is it brotherhood......rob
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Steve,
I am grateful to you for bringing this up for discussion. I have thought long and hard about this way of handling painful posts, and in fact have recommended it myself from time to time. I agree that ignoring negativity may discourage it.
But, one thing bothers me about this strategy. Do we not sometimes risk seeming to agree with negativity if we simply let it sit on the MB unchallenged?
It's a double-edged thing, perhaps. Seeming to agree or not to care on the one hand, and risking outbursts if we challenge something on the other hand...
"Always forgive your enemies...nothing annoys them quite so much." Oscar Wilde
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robert bryce
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Registered: January 1970
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To challange is to take up arms again..I see another attempt to rake old wounds..Timmy,I believe has given clear marching orders--BEHAVE AND STOP the hurt..The rule is simple,if you aint got sumtin nice to say,best keep trap shut...This war is finished.Any further discussion is simply rehashing and scraping at wounds and pissing Timmy off.Silence belies consent.Tis best if any reply is to be made,that reply should be given with brotherhood and the spirit that this place stands for..No matter how polite and couched the words are,we can see through the mask....rob
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Registered: January 1970
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Great thought, Steve, but sometimes silence can make your brain explode.
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Silence is usually golden... or so they say.
When someone writes hurtful and negative things on a medium such as this, they are typically trying to elicit a response. They are limited in how to confidently and positively express themselves... or they just want to hurt.
Hurtful and negative statements are also usually abusive and are directed to cause pain upon anothert
In light of all this, Silence as Steve states will take the power away from any negativity. Without power, it will die. The pain will have no teeth if we don't let it.
Let us all remember... Hurt and Hate are both 4 letter words.
Let us all also focus on Love, Peace, Support, Comfort, and helping each other here.
So far, I have seen Timmy do an awesome job here, and I believe we should allow him to do his thing...
Thanks for speaking, Steve. Thanks for the awesome work, Timmy.
BamBam
Celebrate your life... embrace your love... Become intimate with your place in forever !!!
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robert bryce
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Registered: January 1970
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I just love that thumbs down icon,it really,really brings such joy to my heart...Just by itself represents many of the replies that I want to make to such nice posts...It is so much easier to use than typing a long disertation and so lovingly gets the point across..Ido wish you a happy life,please feel free to ask for more of those awesome icons....rob
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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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Is about equally as annoying as the big red exclamation mark....
I think a well worded reply is much more expressive than emoticons....
They both denote a definate negativity and should be avoided.
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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So you are saying that unless a person can be eloquent in speach and dazzle tos masses with briliant oratory, they should just remain silent?
No one wants to hurt anyone. But remember that when something happens that is intrinsically wrong, someone will speak up on the subject.
Or is it better to let a wrong go unnoticed?
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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robert bryce
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Registered: January 1970
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On fire! |
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robert bryce
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Registered: January 1970
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I hope I am not misunderstood, Marc. Please allow me to simplify...
My whole point is to encourage all of us to look at what we say... what is behind what we say... and focus on helping each other.
Hurt will come. No doubt about that. But if we focus on helping and healing, then we can all continue to be a better, more loving family.
Does that make sense??? I surely don't want to lead anyone in the wrong direction... and I am surely not trying to pretend these things don't happen...
Sorry for the misunderstanding, Marc.
Bam
Celebrate your life... embrace your love... Become intimate with your place in forever !!!
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robert bryce
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Registered: January 1970
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Nice to see you on this board..U use the word simplify.....perhaps a better more neutral phrase would be (let me amplify or clarify)....rob
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marc
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But we all need to take a good look at what we see as well.
Too often inten is mistaken as malace. When that happens the cliques rally and draw their battle lines and all hell breaks loose.
I don't need simplification, but looking at both sides of the situation would be of some help.
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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Thanks for correcting me.
I used the word simplify because (from my point of view and experience) I usually bury what I want to say in too many words.
Thanks again. I know you care... and that makes all the difference in the world...
Bam
Celebrate your life... embrace your love... Become intimate with your place in forever !!!
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It is people like you and rob and heather that make this such a great place to be....
Thanks for being u...
Bam.
Celebrate your life... embrace your love... Become intimate with your place in forever !!!
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robert bryce
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Registered: January 1970
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WOW !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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WOW???????????????????????? Why the wow my good man?????
Bam
Celebrate your life... embrace your love... Become intimate with your place in forever !!!
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robert bryce
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Registered: January 1970
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Aint correcting ya,just trying to be a friend....Welcome to Timmys nut farm,some aint got no taste and some taste good..But what the hell,lets have some fun.........rob
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hehe, paul -- i too, tend to over-talk things, and the later at night it gets, the more i fall to run-on sentences. worry not -- you're not alone there. 
my void does not want.
-- 2.13.61.
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robert bryce
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Registered: January 1970
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first nice thing ever said to me and it sure feels good.......rob
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You aren't serious !!!!! I think it is great that you put the time and effort in to helping me out there...
My man, you are just helping me get my writing thing on correctly !!!!!
Bam.....
Celebrate your life... embrace your love... Become intimate with your place in forever !!!
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robert bryce
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Registered: January 1970
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Girl you just keep on talking...music for this ol mans ears....You and BAMBAM are gonna set this place on fire....BTW how are those precious deer doing,,hows sending some more pictures and send me a better pix of you..I may just get to start liking girls...hehehe.......rob
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H.... you have been so nice since I started on this MB.. I think I am going to swim across the lake just to give you a big hug !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Bam...:-* :-* :-* :-* :-*
Celebrate your life... embrace your love... Become intimate with your place in forever !!!
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robert bryce
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Registered: January 1970
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please dont ever be shamed at your words..I hear you clearly and I hear a friend and thats what its all about....BTW,,Misplaced aint misplaced at all.Shes in exackly the right place....rob
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or so i think/hope! thanks, rob.
my void does not want.
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better hurry before it gets TOO cold!! maybe your kids could hang out with mine. well, she's only 8 but she acts like she's 13 at least... ::-)
my void does not want.
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Like I said before... with all those needles... you are exactly in the right place.... ACROSS LAKE MICHIGAN !!!!!!!!! LOL !!!!!!!
And you are still so loved....
Bam
:-* :-* :-* :-* :-*
Celebrate your life... embrace your love... Become intimate with your place in forever !!!
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or I can wait till it freezes over... right?????
BTW.. r u by Motor City or no????
Bam
Celebrate your life... embrace your love... Become intimate with your place in forever !!!
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nope, i'm in muskegon, right on lake michigan.
my void does not want.
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Ok... just kidding... actually, the fairy... I mean ferry goes from Manitowoc to Muskegon if I am not mistaken...
BTW.. do you know where I live over here???? Have u ever been here????
Bam
Celebrate your life... embrace your love... Become intimate with your place in forever !!!
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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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It truely is wonderful to see you making friends....
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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no, i actually haven't ever been over to wisconsin. i've been to chicago, and to indianapolis, and that's about it as far as the mid-west goes. i've been to canada (toronto, specifically..) four times, D.C., and boston. oh, and new york. that's the extent of my travels.
you should ferry over here one day! muskegon is fun for about 3 days and then you've seen it all. hehe!
oh gosh. i really need to shut off the RSS feeder thing, i'm supposed to be writing. ERRRRRRRRRGH!!!! ::-)  )
my void does not want.
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robert bryce
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Registered: January 1970
Messages: 414
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Brother Marc,,I bow to your wisdom however,words sometimes gets me into trouble and such symbols can convey thoughts that are best not verbalised.The symbol also can be a signature to convey disapproval to a person that wants to hurt others......rob
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robert bryce
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Registered: January 1970
Messages: 414
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silence on the battlefield sometimes is a good thing dave......rob
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Re: A resounding silence 
Re: A resounding silence 
Re: And love is not negativity and that damn thumbs down icon 
Well worded reply 
Re: Marc, that isn't what I am saying at all.... 
Re: Rob, point well taken. 