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denial  [message #22285] Sun, 19 September 2004 09:06 Go to next message
trick is currently offline  trick

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Registered: September 2004
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hi being the new guy on the forum i just wondered if anyone
else spent as long as me trying to tell themselves they
were not gay (20yrs) im now 32 & only been true to myself
for approx 1yr or is nobody else that useless.dickle
Re: denial  [message #22286 is a reply to message #22285] Sun, 19 September 2004 09:36 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy

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Well I managed to deny it until I was 48 if that helps Smile

I "knew I liked boys" but I "Wasn't gay".

Welcome aboard.



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
Re: denial  [message #22287 is a reply to message #22285] Sun, 19 September 2004 13:20 Go to previous messageGo to next message
blue is currently offline  blue

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Congrats, dickle, you made it out of the closet a little sooner than I did. I started coming out a few weeks ago, and I'm just a few years older.

That :censored: closet was too confining after a while, and way too lonely.

I'm still getting comfortable with the new me and still have a lot of coming out to do. But I already like this me a lot better than the old me.

I am grateful for the friends who've shown themselves to be truer friends than I could have imagined, by supporting me.

Not all my friends or family will accept this, when I tell them. I will miss having them in my life, and I'm sorry for them, that they won't accept the real me, or people like me.

BUT -- I will have my whole life ahead of me.

I am so impressed by the courage shown by out teens. I am also impressed by their family and friends who support them. What a great gift.

~Blue
Re: denial  [message #22288 is a reply to message #22285] Sun, 19 September 2004 16:21 Go to previous messageGo to next message
brian! is currently offline  brian!

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Your not the only one, it was a little over 2 years
ago for me to accept it. What a relief of stress
not fighting with yourself any longer. Biggest hurdle
after that is telling anyone about yourself.

Brian



To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.
Re: denial  [message #22289 is a reply to message #22285] Sun, 19 September 2004 17:40 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Nigel is currently offline  Nigel

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I've only dared come out to myself since early retirement and now I'm only out to this website. I certainly could not come out to my social circle, especially after the odd remarks I hear. I came out through my stories and feel more at ease with myself. I'm not sure this is an encouraging post unfortunately. Good luck to you, dickle.
Hugs
Nigel:-O



I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.

…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
Re: denial  [message #22309 is a reply to message #22285] Wed, 22 September 2004 15:33 Go to previous message
joesdog is currently offline  joesdog

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Being true to yourself for a year after denying it for 20 is cause for celebration, not calling oneself useless. Welcome home, buddy.

cheers!

aj



"I promise not to try not to fuck with your mind/ I promise not to mind if you go your way and i go mine/promise not to lie if i'm looking you right in your eye/promise not to try not to let you down."
--Eve6
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