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One late night in the online game World of Warcraft, we had a poll in our guild. Just out of curiosity (and because it might be interesting to hear answers from a group of people that will presumably include people over 30 years old), I'm asking the same question here. The original poll consisted of 2 questions, I'm now posting the first one and the second one sometime in the future, if people are interested. If and when answering, please include some explanation as to why you chose the answer you chose.
If you could only choose one of the following, which would you choose: money (as in filthy rich) or sex (as opposed to celibacy)? The idea is, that you can have one, but not the other, so if you chose sex, you would know you'd never be rich, and if you chose money, you would know that you'd never have sex. For the definition of sex in this case, masturbation doesn't count, but anything you'd do with another person does.
That which is dreamed can never be lost, can never be undreamed.
-Master Li in Neil Gaiman's Sandman
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Devoted most of my life to making money and avoiding sex.
Money makes me feel "successful" and "secure". Sex scares the hell out of me.
But I guess I'm not very typical.
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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At 17 -26 or so I would have chosen sex. No question, sex was god!
As I got married I found sex was not what I expected. And after almost 26 years of marriage I find that sex is not a commodity that is on offer.
Give me money and a good wank any day.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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... Neither !
In the last 20 years I've had two longterm relationships - one of three years, one of thirteen. Neither involved sex (unless you count lots of loving cuddles).
And I've spent most of my life working in theatre (notoriously long hours and low pay), followed by time in local government. Both enormously worthwhile. But I have never been paid *remotely* as much as the "average graduate salary for the region".
And if I had my time over again? Yes - I would do the same again.
But if I had to make the call now? No contest. I'd definitely choose to have sex (within an LTR).
Being relatively poor does not impinge on my sense of self-worth ... because I know I'm relatively poor because of the worthwhile things I've chosen to do. But after a while, intense but non-physically-sexual relationships caused me to question my own self-worth - was there something 'broken' inside me that had made me become scared of sex after my mid-twenties? Yes, there was, and I now (aged 50) understand it and think I am managing to overcome it (and look forward to an opportunity to put this to the test!).
But I cannot recommend either poverty or celibacy as attractive options for a lifetime. Are we allowed to alternate them every decade or so?
NW
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
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