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It's taken a while, but I guess I finally let go. My friend Stephen left in April 2003 and I have missed him loads ever since. I know people think I was crazy for ever having loved him, but I never claimed not to be crazy. Anyways, I know he ain't ever coming back and I guess if he ever did he would have nowhere to go since I sold his house. I've finally taken the plunge to get on with stuff, though is hard sometimes, cause I don;t always know if I did the right thing. I aint so good at decsion making, so has taken a while to get this far. Anyways, his name is Dylan and he makes me laugh and he makes me happy. We need a place to live, so we been looking around and maybe finally decided to settle in one particular place. It should be cool cause I know other people here, we both do, and since we came to stay a while with a friend of ours we met other people we were at Uni with and we caught up and will see each other a lot, so that's positive. I guess I'm moving on from Stephen. I will always love and miss him and I hope I did the right thing. I know my moving on and onto Dylan hasn't pleased everyone and I know why, but is cool. We can make it wotk if we try hard and I know he would walk to hell and back to make me happy. I just hope I can do the same for him and not let him down. I come here sometimes because I did before when Stephen was here and I knew people here then. All forgot me now I guess. That's cool. Guess has been a while. Anyways, guess I'm not making much sense, so I better go. Thanks for letting me back in.
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Simon, There are some of us here who have lost someone we loved. Either they left or passed away. I lost my partner of 35 years and it nearly killed me. I know he wanted me to go on. You have left one love and you will never forget him but now you have a new love and you have to put all your efforts into that relationship. I discovered one important thing, a relationship isnt being together all the time, dont be afraid of not having everything in common. The real key to love is friendship and trust and most of that is trust. Moving on can be scary but we all do it and you will do it. Dylan sounds like a wonderful person I hope a lifelong bond will form. I have learned that a couple of old wives sayings are true, "Familiarity breeds contempt" and "Smothering someone will end a relationship fast".
I dont think I knew you from befor but Im glad your here now. Im sure there are guys in here that will remember you and will be glad to talk to you. This family is tight and I have never known a bunch like this. They Pulled me thru some bad times and I am forever thankful.
Remember, a journey begins with one step. You have taken that first step, now take Dylan's hand and finish your journey together.
[Updated on: Wed, 16 May 2007 01:26]
If you stand for Freedom, but you wont stand for war, then you dont stand for anything worth fighting for.
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Welcome back, Simon - and the very best of luck to you and Dylan.
J F R
The paradox has often been noted that the United States, founded in secularism, is now the most religiose country in Christendom, while England, with an established church headed by its constitutional monarch, is among the least. (Richard Dawkins, 2006)
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It is quite possible to love more than one person. Love is a feeling generated when one feels an intimate connection with another, feels comfortable in their company and there is mutual trust. Sometimes that love (because of the first element) can be 'red hot' or 'smouldering'; other times the other elements are to the fore. ('Sometimes' and 'other times' refers both the the same relationship developing over the years and to different relationships entered into by the same person.)
There is no law, either human or of nature, that says that one can love only once. There are millions of people all over the world today who are enjoying a loving relationship for the second time (or more). And there are billions upon billions of people who have done so throughout human history.
Sometimes you have to let yourself love and be loved - and often that is the hardest part of all.
J F R
The paradox has often been noted that the United States, founded in secularism, is now the most religiose country in Christendom, while England, with an established church headed by its constitutional monarch, is among the least. (Richard Dawkins, 2006)
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I wanted to move so bad, but after really buying the place, I'm glad I didn't. I'm just going to update a lot of things, and put it back on the market, hopefully for a profit. It shouldn't take much, I'm replacing all the water lines, and almost all of the electrical. It's also getting a 2007 kitchen. From what my realtor says, I should get a real good turn over.
Brian
To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.
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marc
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Needs to get a life! |
Registered: March 2003
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In this housing market?
I think your realtor needs to get a bit of a reality check.
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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It depends on several things:
If the market is flat, that's ok, but the property needs to have been a substantial bargain, and the budget for doing it up must be kept under control.
In a declining market, do it up and live in it. Wait for prices to rise.
In a rising market you can fool yourself with a profit that is just from the rise in the market. If you are using this to fund another property then it is "false profit" because it gets absorbed in the new purchase.
Beware also the costs of sale and of purchase, and any tax liability caused by the "business sale" of the one you do up.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Aussie
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Really getting into it |
Registered: August 2006
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It seems to me you have chosen very expensive items to update unlike repainting which can add value cheaply. Replacing plumbing and electrical are not going to improve the look of the house so it will be difficult to recoup your outlay.It would be a good idea to get advice from someone experienced in renovations with a view to resale before you spend your hard earned cash.
There are a couple of guys here called the reno kings who do this kind of thing. http://renos.com.au/news/21/
Aussie
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