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More non science  [message #75002] Thu, 18 October 2018 14:56 Go to next message
timmy

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I've been continuing my studies. I'd forgotten what a weird place tumblr is. Who needs to pay for porn sites when you can find anything and everything in tumblr!

I'm perturbed about penetrative gay sex videos. They seem to be about domination and brutal fucking with nothing positive captured. The penis is inserted in the chosen hole and it is used as a hole with no interest in the human being whose hole it is. It is fucked hard and selfishly, and an orgasm results.

Rarely, there is tenderness shown.

More rarely, the person being penetrated reaches orgasm by virtue only of being penetrated, but this tends to be by thoughtful penetration.

This all raises the question regaridng how real life penetrative couplings relate to porn. Are the porn couplings true to life, and, if so, which drives the other?


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Re: More non science  [message #75004 is a reply to message #75002] Fri, 19 October 2018 16:21 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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It's just possible that those who participate in a gentle, passionate, loving action are less interested in turning it into a public spectacle than those who find themselves even more aroused by the display of their brutal triumph over the helpless.
Re: More non science  [message #75005 is a reply to message #75004] Fri, 19 October 2018 17:07 Go to previous message
timmy

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I agree with that thought. However, the thing that worries me is that folk will look at these videos and think that is how sex ought to happen.

Doesn't matter whether the porn is homo or hetero, the great majority show total disregard, often contempt, for the person penetrated. If it were BDSM I would understand, but this is normal, insofar as exhibitionism is normal.

I also find I detest some terms such as:
  • Sissy
  • Sissygasm
  • Faggot (yup, it's used in gay porn!)

If I choose to be penetrated you can bet your life I am not a sissy, nor a faggot. I have an absolute desire, never to be satisfied in this incarnation of me, to achieve an orgasm from a real, live, well wielded penis inside me, but it will not be a sissygasm!

Porn has often been said to be demeaning, yet the terms are the things in my view that demean more than the action. 

With the caveat that I was never out when I was 'of pornable age' so was not a candidate I would not have been concerned about starring in a porn fantasy, and would be unashamed to have videos and pictures of me online. As a kid I had a pride in my body. As an adult I retain a misplaced pride in it!

But I would have hated anything portraying me as treated with contempt.

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