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timmy

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I have a complex question about sexual abuse, as it is termed today. Actually the question is about the result of perceptions by others, of sexual abuse.

First I want totally to condemn adult/child sexual acts under all circumstances where the child is coerced, forced, intimidated, blackmailed or otherwise induced against his or her will into a sexual act. Those are not the subject I want to discuss in this thread. Those we have discussed to death before. Equally we have discussed to death the concept that the adult is always at fault, and we have talked about the person who bears the responsibility to say "no" as always being the adult. So let us take that as read, please,

What I want to discuss is different.

I want to look at the guilt the child receives from other people, even when the relationship has been just that: a relationship. And even when only good was done to both parties.

I have long suspected that a child who was part of such a relationship only feels guilt when told to, instructed to, by the media, that searches nowadays for an ogre to blame for everything, almost as a part of the culture of litigation.

The question, really, is "Should a child who has been loved, felt loved, and returned love in a truly two way supportive relationship, be made to feel guilty because they loved an older person?"

I am not sure I've asked it very well.

PLEASE don’t get into a great rant about adult/child sex. Instead please look at the topic I am posing. I see it as a very different issue, the issue of guilt and received guilt from media activity.


Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
 
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