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Registered: May 2003
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Well, people here seem to get bored quickly, so how about I raise another interesting issue, yet hopefully one no-one will be able to disagree with. The purpose of this topic isn't to discuss opinions, it is to analyse society and why society attatches labels to certain traits yet not others.
My point is basically this- Why do we ourselves and society define males with a male partner preference as being "gay", "homosexual", "queer" or which ever term you wish to use (this argument applies for females attracted to females and also those that are termed "bisexual")? Why is gender such an integral part of society that there needs to be a seperate category for those of an alternate seuxal preference?
Society doesn't label people blond-sexuals or brunette-sexuals, simple because someone prefers people of a specific hair colour. Why then is gender preference such an important distinction to make? Some could say that it is because gender is more than a physical attribute, people of a certain gender are more likely (not guaranteed) to think a certain way, or have certain interests but still there is no Asian-sexual or older-partner-sexual, race, culture and age are far more than physical attritbutes as well.
The thing that annoys me most (and I am as guilty as anyone else here) is that those who do have a male preference are quite willing to say "I'm gay", they are willing to put that label on themselves and really restrict themselves by doing so. I have been trying recently, not to use the term "gay", but instead to say "I'm attracted to males, primarily, that doesn't rule females out totally, it just means the physical and psychological aspects that are inherantly male appeal to me more", I guess it is a little more long winded, but really I don't think sexuality should be something that comes into question, except as a casual topic for discussion, just as prefered hair colour or race isn't really questioned except out of curiousity.
I guess that creates problems with those that do want to classify themselves as "straight" and are unwilling to think outside that little box. If you had blond hair and wanted to get involved with someone that didn't like blonds there wouldn't be an issue. If you're male and want to get involved with a guy that doesn't like males, then it could be a lot more of an issue.
Anyway, there's just my few thoughts to play around with as you like. I do not want this to turn into a "debate" or even really a "difference of opinion", we've had enough of that recently. I just want this to be a discussion based around what I've presented. If you don't like the case I've presented, then please walk about now and do NOT hit the reply button.
Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
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