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How do couples work out who does what and with which and to whom? [message #12826]

Mon, 28 July 2003 12:07

timmy

Has no life at all

Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13828

This is not a naive question. Heterosexual couples have it defined. "That bit goes in there". But two guys.........

So, Picture the scene. We are 14,15,16,17,18. I am im his arms, and we are kissing madly. I have no idea what my limits are, nor what his limits are. I'm nervous, fumbling, and pretty much virginal. Him too. I am plain scared in case either I break a taboo for him, or he does for me. I'm afraid of so many things I don't yet understand. All I know for sure is that I am about to do, with luck, everything I ever wanted, with a person I respect and, at least for now, adore.

How do we know, any of us, what is and is not wanted?

Do I do something I don't like just coz he wants it?

Do I ask him to do something and insist just because I want it?

Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School

		How do couples work out who does what and with which and to whom? By: timmy on Mon, 28 July 2003 12:07
		hmmmm.... tough question By: thirdfencepost on Mon, 28 July 2003 12:27
		Re: How do couples work out who does what and with which and to whom? By: dartagnon on Mon, 28 July 2003 13:43
		OK, here goes By: kevin on Mon, 28 July 2003 16:05
		Re: How do couples work out who does what and with which and to whom? By: marc on Mon, 28 July 2003 20:11
		Re: How do couples work out who does what and with which and to whom? By: Guest on Tue, 29 July 2003 10:03
		So, you're saying........ By: smith on Tue, 29 July 2003 11:27
		hiccup!! By: smith on Tue, 29 July 2003 11:37
		Re: hiccup!! By: timmy on Tue, 29 July 2003 12:58
		Re: hiccup!! By: marc on Tue, 29 July 2003 23:02
		Something that can't be done By: Guest on Wed, 30 July 2003 06:51
		Creativity is important..... But..... By: marc on Thu, 31 July 2003 09:08
		Play it by ear By: saben on Tue, 29 July 2003 16:16
		Oh and there will probably be some kind of regret By: saben on Tue, 29 July 2003 16:21
		so, I guess....... By: timmy on Tue, 29 July 2003 22:05
		Well..... there was this one time..... By: marc on Tue, 29 July 2003 23:11
		>giggle< I SO love this MB By: smith on Wed, 30 July 2003 13:35

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