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trevor
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Registered: November 2002
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A friend of mine recently posted a question here - something that has been on his mind and troubling him. He asked it as politely and tactfully as he is able. He was humble and apologetic when he thought he'd inadvertently offended someone. Granted, the timing may not have been the best and I disagree with at least his choice of words, and his meaning to a degree.
This is someone who seldom posts here and his last post that I recall was virtually ignored. Granted, some of you may not have been able to relate to it, but a "Hi" or some awknowledgement might have been nice.
He was effectively asked/ordered repeatedly to shut up in this last thread by the one person who is the least appropriate to be making that request, who himself had as many posts "contributing" to the "offending" thread as the original poster. My friend was told he was causing the current problem repeatedly by the very primary instigator of the general problem.
He was pretty much blasted with sarcasm in response to his lack of understanding and differing opinion and was blamed for being the last straw when in fact this was HIS first straw. His thread was shutdown which I am sure was not personal in any way, but I'm just as sure he took it that way.
There may have been no satisfactory answer to his question, I guess an awknowledgement that those things can at least appear to happen would have been good.
I ask that we consider my friend's perspective and what he will take away from this dialog. If his question, which I believe was asked innocently, became a self-fulfilling prophecy, I do not believe that's because *HE* fulfilled it.
I do appreciate timmy's patience during this mess, but I also know that he is both vocal and literate enough to communicate his thoughts effectively as well as having administrative authority.
timmy said to stay and try to improve this place because we are all responsible for the atmosphere here. Someone else said we can't help if we don't know who is hurting. I hope by pointing out this situation as, I'm guessing, it appears to my friend, I am helping more than I'm hurting.
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Frustrated
By: trevor on Wed, 24 September 2003 06:25 |
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Re: Frustrated
By: timmy on Wed, 24 September 2003 06:54 |
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Re: Frustrated
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Re: Frustrated
By: timmy on Wed, 24 September 2003 07:54 |
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Re: Frustrated
By: Steve on Wed, 24 September 2003 08:43 |
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Re: Frustrated
By: marc on Wed, 24 September 2003 09:33 |
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He is my friend too, and I am very sad he is hurting...
By: lenny on Wed, 24 September 2003 10:43 |
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Re: Frustrated
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"The lady doth protest too much, methinks" Hamlet, Shakespea
By: Steve on Wed, 24 September 2003 14:15 |
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Re: "The lady doth protest too much, methinks" Hamlet, Shakespea
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Rob, please read this:
By: lenny on Wed, 24 September 2003 14:16 |
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Re: Rob, please read this:
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Re: Frustrated ... yea me too
By: kevin on Wed, 24 September 2003 14:57 |
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Re: Frustrated ... yea me too
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I am not .....
By: kevin on Wed, 24 September 2003 15:52 |
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I think there is a misunderstanding
By: timmy on Wed, 24 September 2003 16:31 |
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I must admit to personal frustration here
By: timmy on Wed, 24 September 2003 16:21 |
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I don't know what to do ...
By: kevin on Wed, 24 September 2003 16:50 |
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Re: I don't know what to do ...
By: misplaced on Wed, 24 September 2003 16:58 |
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Not your job to do it, Kevin
By: timmy on Wed, 24 September 2003 17:02 |
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Re: I don't know what to do ...
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Please Stop ..
By: Guest on Wed, 24 September 2003 17:08 |
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It's not your fault Rick ...
By: kevin on Wed, 24 September 2003 17:31 |
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