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Notice: I am more than angry at all the poor behaviour. [message #15874]

Fri, 03 October 2003 06:38

timmy

Has no life at all

Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13785

It can't be that simple?

I have it.

It is as simple as that.

And yet the pure simplicity of it bewilders me. And it is not to my taste in the smallest degree.

I have reached the conclusion that people post what we might call "carelsss" posts because they have been badly brought up, and are naturally impolite, and naturally disruptive.

And they love to see the disruption that their selfish stupidity causes when their post eother upsest someone, or brings people rushing to say "it wasn't me" (schoolroom behaviour) or to defend them (pack territorial behaviour) or to attack them (joining in and bullying).

All of these things provide attention. And attention is desirable.

It's like a kid being naughty when its dad gets home from work, because it wants attention, and even a smack is attention.

I started out by understanding this behaviour. I saw it on other messageboards and sought, once, to calm it. For that I was reviled. So I created a board on my own site. Some might call it a vanity. Perhaps it is. For a long time the board was gentle and peaceful. A few oddities happened, and fights broke out. That was ok, though unpleasant.

Recently things have become vitriolic here.

People are being frightened away.

Three people are on "final warnings". Three!

That means that the purpose I started it for is being ruined by a few selfish, egocentric fools. Perhaps it has already been ruined.

It is the work of a minute to close it down totally.

All I have to do is to log in to my (yes "my") website, selected the diectory where the board is, and press "delete".

I don't want apologies.

In fact I am going to delete any apologies as pretentious and self seeking.

What I want here, now, are reasons to keep this board open. Got a good reason? Post it. Got an excuse or an apology? Don't even think of it. Want to get upset about it? Forget it, I'm not interested. The only answers I will retain here are reasons to keep it open.

Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School

		Notice: I am more than angry at all the poor behaviour. By: timmy on Fri, 03 October 2003 06:38
		The Bushel or the Lighthouse By: dartagnon on Fri, 03 October 2003 08:16
		Re: The Bushel or the Lighthouse By: mike on Fri, 03 October 2003 16:43
		Re: Notice: I am more than angry at all the poor behaviour. By: brian! on Fri, 03 October 2003 08:19
		Re: Notice: I am more than angry at all the poor behaviour. By: dartagnon on Fri, 03 October 2003 08:32
		I am not quite sure what to say .... By: kevin on Fri, 03 October 2003 14:23
		Re: Notice: I am more than angry at all the poor behaviour. By: yourbestgayfriend on Fri, 03 October 2003 14:34
		Re: Notice: I am more than angry at all the poor behaviour. By: misplaced on Fri, 03 October 2003 14:35
		OK, that is enough to keep it. By: timmy on Fri, 03 October 2003 14:38
		And it would sure stink for it to close on my third day here By: machelli on Fri, 03 October 2003 19:18
		This board enables me to pay it forward. By: charlie on Fri, 03 October 2003 23:50
		Charlie? I do not understand? By: marc on Sat, 04 October 2003 20:20
		It's a movie By: nick on Sun, 05 October 2003 14:30
		Now, a little more to get off my chest By: timmy on Sat, 04 October 2003 23:19
		some of us do realise... By: misplaced on Sat, 04 October 2003 23:25
		"Huge Ditto" to what 'girl' said.... By: yourbestgayfriend on Sat, 04 October 2003 23:31
		Re: some of us do realise... By: timmy on Sat, 04 October 2003 23:34
		Oh Man, timmy, you REALLY need to check your email By: machelli on Sat, 04 October 2003 23:37
		I'm serious By: machelli on Sat, 04 October 2003 23:38
		Re: some of us do realise... By: misplaced on Sat, 04 October 2003 23:41
		Thru thick and thin........ By: marc on Sat, 04 October 2003 23:43
		Re: some of us do realise... By: robert bryce on Sun, 05 October 2003 10:39
		Listen a sec though, Rob By: smith on Sun, 05 October 2003 11:38
		Re: Listen a sec though, Rob By: robert bryce on Sun, 05 October 2003 11:41
		You know what? By: timmy on Sun, 05 October 2003 11:50
		Maybe this will help, Rob By: smith on Sun, 05 October 2003 12:33
		smith.... thanks.... Rob...... thanks.... Timmy.... thanks.. By: yourbestgayfriend on Sun, 05 October 2003 15:20

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