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Over the weekend I came across an article in the British newspaper The Times, written by a lady from Oregon called Suzanne Schlosberg. The article begins:
In my early thirties, I went 1,358 days without sex. To save you the calculations, that’s three years, eight months and 23 days — more than the combined length of Jennifer Lopez’s first two marriages plus the number of days that Lisa Marie Presley was married to Michael Jackson and Nicholas Cage.
The article filled a double page spread in one of the paper’s Saturday supplements. You can read it at http://www.timesonline.co.uk/printFriendly/0,,1-100-1234288,00.html Two things in particular grabbed my attention.
Firstly, the author’s belief that hers was truly a remarkable feat. Indeed, on her website http://www.suzanneschlosberg.com Ms Schlosberg describes this "epic dry spell" as a feat of endurance of such magnitude that it couldn't go unrecorded. She therefore felt compelled to write a book about it! *
Secondly, when her sex draught came to an end, she was so embarrassed about her “big secret” that she was uncertain about whether she should reveal it to her new lover.
I’d wrestled with whether I should reveal my big secret, knowing it was the sort of information that could send certain guys sprinting out the door. But I had so much confidence that Paul wasn’t one of those guys that I took the chance. We were still in bed when I spilled the beans. He looked at me in shock and, it seemed like five minutes before he was able to speak again. “But ... but ... you are so normal. How could that be?”
When I read articles like this I seriously begin to wonder if I live on the same planet as other people! For myself I went through the whole of my teens, twenties and thirties without a single sexual encounter and find nothing remarkable in a single person abstaining from sex. Indeed I was brought up to believe that this was the virtuous way to behave. Plus I would have thought that the discovery that one's new sexual partner has not been sleeping around recently was a bonus rather than a potential cause for embarrassment.
What do others think? Is a 1,358 day period of abstinence such an extraordinary feat? And if you discovered that your new partner had abstained for this length of time would you be pleased about it or would you worry whether they were "normal"?
* "The Curse of the Singles Table: A True Story of 1001 Nights without Sex" is available from Amazon. http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0446690546/ref=ase_suzanneschlos-20/102-8387247-2838536?v=glance&s=books#product-details or in the UK from http://www.timesonline.co.uk/booksfirstbuy
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