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and ask a question I have been pondering for a while now...
I have been out completely for a year now.. as of Christmas day. I have acknowledged I am gay for many months before that.
I am dealing with something in who I am and I would like to ask everyone's opinion...
As I walk through life, I seem to have found two different sub cultures within our own (gay society, I mean)... there are those who define themselves and their lives as gay, and there are those who define themselves as a person, normal in most ways except they are gay. One has to fly rainbow flags, the others don't care about rainbow flags and refuse to go to pride parades and gay bars.
I do not allow my sexual distinction (not preference or choice... I believe i was born this way) to define me at all other than who I come home to every evening (when that happens, anyway), and who is in the other half of our bed, or maybe I should say who I share my life with.
After saying all that, I ask: Why do some of us define ourselves one way and some the other? I just truly do not understand why someone chooses to define their entire life and style by sexual identity. I see us as just who we are... no real choice in the matter... we are attracted to whom we are. Has society made us do this? Is it insecurity? Are we that much of an oddity? I just dont get it.
Let me say one thing further to explain the way I see some things. In the States, we still have lots of discrimination about sexual orientation, skin color, etc. I have never ever seen that at all. I am a blonde haired blue eyed man... average in every way... and one of my best friends has skin as black as it can get I think, and I never have thought of us as black and white !!!!! Maybe this is why I ask this question?
Sorry for the length of this, but I would really love to hear other's views on how they see it. Especially others from other cultures/countries that have a different view????
I love and miss you all when I am away (work has kept me from here for far too long !!!!)
And Timmy, thanks for all you do !!!!!! You are so appreciated !!!! :-* :-*
Celebrate your life... embrace your love... Become intimate with your place in forever !!!
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Each in our own way, my friend
By: timmy on Wed, 29 December 2004 18:57 |
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