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icon4.gif It is time to smell the manure, Eothain  [message #23655] Sun, 06 February 2005 12:34 Go to previous message
timmy

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I think you have a hint of the stench right now.

Let's ignore for all time your assurances, which I believe, that you are not sexually interested in the young gentlemen of your acquaintance. Let's also ignore NW's sincere comment that you are not an abuser, and not in W's class at all.

Instead let's look at perception. Perception is reality. So we are looking at other's people's reality about you.
  • One boy perceives you as a paedophile
  • Because of that one boy other boys perceive you as a paedophile
  • It is said in jest currently
  • jests, repeated often enough, become facts
  • It matters not at all tat the fact is not true. It is a fact
  • One boy's mother perceives you as a paedophile
  • This is a dangerous fact
  • Dangerous facts are major warnings
  • Fail to heed major warnings and serious consequences beckon
I could go on. Instead i am going to give you an idea of where you are headed. I emphasise that you are headed there eventhough your motivations are as you have assured us and I believe you.

In the UK the Sexual Offences Act 2004 has the offence of "Grooming a minor for sexual acts.". I can make a good legal argument that you are doing this. And you can not disprove this at all. "popular" opinion says you are a paedophile. Thus you are a paedophile.

The offence of grooming carries a prison sentence.

Serving that sentence will happen in a young offenders' location. There you will be hurt badly and buggered regualrly and hard by deeply unpleasant people.

That will pass.

Afterwards you will be on the Sexual Offenders Register. This means major restrictions on your liberty and the grave danger of being killed by vigilantes when the details are leaked to the public.

Your travel will be restricted. Foreign nations do not accept criminals for visits. They are particularly keen on not accepting sexual offenders. No vacations in the USA. Ever.

It makes no difference here that your intentions are honourable and innocent. What makes the fifference is the perception people have of you. Someone will make it their business to pry into your innocent business and will make one of these joke accusations stick one day. Hmm. The mother, though. That concerns me deeply. You have done something to appear to her to be a danger to her minor child.

So this you have to sort out. To do so you need adult help. It is wise for the foreseeable future to distance yourself from children unless in a formal environment. And that means under supervision so there can be no accusations of impropriety.

You have to get a grip on this.

You have started showing me that you are getting a grip. Now show me the rest.

The manure stinks. Step away from the manure.

[Updated on: Sun, 06 February 2005 12:45]



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
 
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