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coming out to friends but not making it obvious  [message #24577] Sat, 11 June 2005 10:45 Go to previous message
Deeej is currently offline  Deeej

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Hi All,

Could any of you give me advice on the best way to casually drop into the conversation that I am gay without making it obvious that I am deliberately trying to let them know I am gay?

I have a lot of old friends from school and it would probably be helpful in some cases if I could let them know I am gay without causing them to question my motives for letting them know. Saying "by the way, I'm gay" sounds pretty gratuitous; with many friends I have practically never raised the subject of sexuality with them, and some of them have seemed uncomfortable with talking about it in the past. (That's not to say I think they are homophobic -- I am sure they are not, as most of the people at my school were intelligent and open-minded. I should imagine they'd react the same way if I said, "oh, by the way, I'm looking for a girlfriend" -- it just wouldn't be terribly relevant to my friendship with them.)

I'd be really grateful for any pointers.

Many thanks,

Deej
 
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