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Hmm...
Just came out to my mother. The conversation went something like this:
Me: I was having a conversation with Dad the other day and I asked him if he would be all right if I had a relationship with a boy rather than a girl. And I wanted to check whether that is all right with you.
Mother: Do you have anyone in mind?
Me: No, hypothetically speaking.
Mother: It doesn't mean a lot to me either way. But if it comes down to a choice then you'd be better off with a girl.
Me: It's not usually a case of making a choice.
Mother: Well, it doesn't mean a lot to me either way. It's not something that any mother would wish on her child. Will you please throw away these used tea-bags from beside the kettle? I don't know why every time I come into the kitchen I have to clear up after you.
At which point the conversation changed tack and we talked reasonably amicably about something else.
I don't know whether (several of these may apply)
i. I just caught her at a bad time, when she was feeling a bit irritable
(this seems likely to me)
ii. She had already discussed it with my father
iii. She is genuinely apathetic (as she implied)
iv. She is not happy about it, but didn't want to upset me
Afterwards things continued as normal - I didn't really get the impression that my mother is upset. (Though I'm not very good at judging these things.)
I'm not quite sure now whether I should...
i. Leave it for a few months/years until I actually have a boyfriend or girlfriend (never having had one)
ii. Bring it up again today when she is in a better mood
iii. Bring it up in a week or so
iv. Talk to my father (who was supportive) about it
Does anyone have any advice?
Best wishes
Deeeeeeeeeeeeej
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