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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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I am having a great deal of trouble at present with a deceiver. Not you, Warren!
This deceiver will not be around for a while. A long while. I'm not going to name him, and he was not a regular here, though he has posted sometimes in the past. I very much doubt that he will ever see this post, but right now I don't much care either way.
The worst thing is I think he has done this before and got away with it because he appears to be a regular and nice guy. In fact online you could never meet a sweeter, more caring, more compassionate soul who goes out of his way to help you and others.
This guy has led me to question my own judgement of people quite seriously. His is manipulative, controlling, devious, and not surprisingly lies very plausibly with half truths good enough to make the lie pass.
He invented a cast of many people all of whom were "helping" in some way, and all of whom made his story the more plausible, and all of whom were even available to either "talk" online or to appear to be answering questions.
To further his own ends he blackened the character of a number of people, and made sure, like all abusers, that "this was to be our little secret" in case it hurt someone else. That part I am quietly putting right.
The thing is, I am totally not sure what his objective was, except to have total control, in so far as one can control other people, of other people's lives.
I suspect this has manifested itself in many and strange ways over time. The problem is, unless I decide finally to name and shame, we will never discover it. And if I name and shame there will be a large number of people who do not realise he has fooled them who leap on me and cry "foul".
So I am stuck. I am venting, yes. I am angry as you can not believe.
The warning, for others, if there is one, is that the white knight galloping to help you is almost certainly not white and not a knight.
If you are ever feeling trapped or backed into a corner, or in some form of manufactured danger, and a "decent soul" offers to help you and that help is in any way restrictive or odd, walk quietly away from them. Check out all the oddities in the things you are told for feasibility. And believe the nagging doubts you have, not any need for secrecy or haste.
Most people are awesome, wonderful, sweet, kind and normal. Most people WILL put themselves out to help and befriend. Most people are genuine.
This one was not. He caught me and several others off guard and slipped under our defences.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Deceit
By: timmy on Fri, 07 October 2005 11:21 |
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Re: Deceit
By: marc on Fri, 07 October 2005 12:02 |
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Re: Deceit
By: timmy on Fri, 07 October 2005 12:17 |
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Re: Deceit
By: Deeej on Fri, 07 October 2005 12:18 |
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Re: Deceit
By: timmy on Fri, 07 October 2005 13:20 |
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Re: Deceit
By: Nigel on Fri, 07 October 2005 16:16 |
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Re: Deceit
By: timmy on Fri, 07 October 2005 19:56 |
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Re: Deceit
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Re: Deceit
By: timmy on Fri, 07 October 2005 20:07 |
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Re: Deceit
By: Deeej on Sat, 08 October 2005 13:51 |
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Re: Deceit
By: Deeej on Sat, 08 October 2005 13:53 |
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Re: Deceit
By: timmy on Sat, 08 October 2005 14:05 |
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Re: Deceit
By: JFR on Sat, 08 October 2005 16:38 |
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Re: Deceit
By: timmy on Sat, 08 October 2005 17:19 |
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Putting one matter to rest
By: timmy on Sat, 08 October 2005 13:33 |
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Re: Putting one matter to rest
By: marc on Sat, 08 October 2005 21:26 |
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Another item to set straight
By: timmy on Sun, 09 October 2005 23:39 |
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Re: Another item to set straight
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Re: Another item to set straight
By: timmy on Mon, 10 October 2005 07:06 |
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The more I unravel the moe there is to unravel
By: timmy on Wed, 12 October 2005 23:57 |
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Deacon
By: timmy on Thu, 20 October 2005 21:31 |
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Re: Deacon
By: timmy on Fri, 21 October 2005 13:03 |
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Re: Deacon
By: marc on Fri, 21 October 2005 14:10 |
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Re: Deacon
By: timmy on Fri, 21 October 2005 15:56 |
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Re: Deacon
By: marc on Fri, 21 October 2005 17:16 |
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Re: Deacon
By: timmy on Fri, 21 October 2005 23:40 |
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Re: Deacon
By: JC on Sun, 23 October 2005 17:34 |
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Re: Deacon
By: JC on Sun, 23 October 2005 17:43 |
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Re: Deacon
By: timmy on Sun, 23 October 2005 17:57 |
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Re: Deacon
By: marc on Sun, 23 October 2005 18:45 |
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