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Timmy, please do not do this to me. [message #28228]

Thu, 16 February 2006 02:00

cossie

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You have closed down Marc's thread about sexual undertones, later redefined by others as inappropriate behaviour.

I have spent a thoroughly miserable day worrying about this issue. You say in your final post -

"Like I said, it is time to be silent on this. We must have a victim, must we? Someone to poke and prod. It;s great to pillory a perosn and make them suffer, so let's do that.

Or better, let's not.

The question was rehtorical. The thread is closed."

But the terms in which the original post was couched very clearly implied that there had been 'sexual undertones' when 'a youth makes an entrance to the board'. It is abundantly clear that in the relatively recent past Brian is the only 'youth' to have 'made an entrance'; it is equally clear that (apart from a couple of innocuous remarks from one other poster) I am the only one who has logged posts directed to Brian which include anything which could be conceivably be described as 'sexual undertones' - though in my view they were clearly humorous to the extent that 'overtones' would be a more accurate description.

Anyone checking out posts over the last couple of months could not do other than conclude that I was the person who had posted 'sexual undertones' and, by association with what came later, that I am the one guilty of inappropriate behaviour.

You say 'We must have a victim, must we? Someone to poke and prod?' Well,
so long as the subject is brushed under the carpet, you DO have a victim, and I am he. If I am left under this cloud of innuendo then I cannot possibly continue as a member of this community - and I do not want to leave, because I have hugely enjoyed the interaction between this group of people I am proud to call friends.

Your penultimate post referred to 'something improper'. If the implication of impropriety had not been raised, then we could all get on with our lives - but once you DO raise the matter, the moving finger moves on. You can't unsay what was said, and the muck sticks, as they say in this part of the world.

Please, Timmy: whether intentionally or otherwise, you have left me covered in muck. To remove it, I need to be directly challenged by an accusation of wrongdoing, so that I can attempt to refute it, or I need to be specifically and unequivocally exonerated - and in view of what has gone before I cannot see how this can be done without being equally specific in identifying what you regard as improper behaviour. Who? is not a question which interests me, as long as it isn't me.

For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.

		Timmy, please do not do this to me. By: cossie on Thu, 16 February 2006 02:00
		Re: Timmy, please do not do this to me. By: timmy on Thu, 16 February 2006 09:43
		Re: Timmy, please do not do this to me. By: kupuna on Thu, 16 February 2006 16:35
		Postscript By: Deeej on Thu, 16 February 2006 17:27
		Re: Timmy, please do not do this to me. By: timmy on Thu, 16 February 2006 18:00
		You all insist..... OK....... By: marc on Thu, 16 February 2006 18:42
		Re: You all insist..... OK....... By: timmy on Thu, 16 February 2006 19:08
		Re: You all insist..... OK....... By: marc on Thu, 16 February 2006 19:27
		Re: You all insist..... OK....... By: timmy on Thu, 16 February 2006 20:11
		Re: You all insist..... OK....... By: Brian1407a on Thu, 16 February 2006 20:51
		Re: You all insist..... OK....... By: timmy on Thu, 16 February 2006 22:57
		Re: You all insist..... OK....... By: marc on Thu, 16 February 2006 21:21
		Re: Timmy, please do not do this to me. By: marc on Thu, 16 February 2006 21:37
		Re: Timmy, please do not do this to me. By: timmy on Thu, 16 February 2006 22:17
		Re: Timmy, please do not do this to me. By: Brian1407a on Thu, 16 February 2006 23:32
		Re: Timmy, please do not do this to me. By: timmy on Fri, 17 February 2006 00:06
		My apologies for not responding sooner ... By: cossie on Fri, 17 February 2006 04:41
		Re: My apologies for not responding sooner ... By: Brian1407a on Fri, 17 February 2006 05:35
		Re: My apologies for not responding sooner ... By: timmy on Fri, 17 February 2006 09:20
		My Two pennyworth By: JFR on Fri, 17 February 2006 08:20
		Wait, I have some pocket change too..... By: marc on Fri, 17 February 2006 11:26
		Re: Wait, I have some pocket change too..... By: Brian1407a on Fri, 17 February 2006 17:09
		More home thoughts from abroad (or at least from England). By: cossie on Sat, 18 February 2006 04:11
		Re: More home thoughts from abroad (or at least from England). By: Brian1407a on Sat, 18 February 2006 07:40
		Re: More home thoughts from abroad (or at least from England By: timmy on Mon, 20 February 2006 14:48
		Timmy, I think that this thread ... By: cossie on Tue, 21 February 2006 03:13
		Re: Timmy, I think that this thread ... By: timmy on Tue, 21 February 2006 07:08
		Re: Timmy, I think that this thread ... By: marc on Tue, 21 February 2006 10:37
		Re: Timmy, I think that this thread ... By: timmy on Tue, 21 February 2006 11:42
		Re: Timmy, I think that this thread ... By: marc on Tue, 21 February 2006 13:13
		Re: Timmy, please do not do this to me. By: marc on Tue, 21 February 2006 15:24
		Re: Timmy, please do not do this to me. By: Brian1407a on Tue, 21 February 2006 16:49
		Please, guys .... By: cossie on Wed, 22 February 2006 04:01
		Re: Please, guys .... By: timmy on Wed, 22 February 2006 08:10
		I have completely had enough By: timmy on Wed, 22 February 2006 08:00

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