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A good friend of mine has just text'd me to say that he has proposed marriage (ie formal civil partnership in the UK) to his boyfriend, and been accepted.
Naturally I'm delighted for him - they are a lovely couple - and have congratulated him by return text.
Howver, normally I'd send a (straight) couple an engagement card, by post, with a carefully composed message inside.
The problem in this case is, I don't actually know my mates postal address. We met on a course, have kept in touch by phone / text / e-mail, and meet by arrangement usually in town, or at a restuarant near where I worked (because I know it's only "a couple of hundred yards" from his place) or whatever. He's been for tea etc at my place (with his boyfriend) after we'd all been for a walk in Epping forest.
He knows that I don't have his postal address - I sent him an on-line card at Christmas for precisely that reason. An engagement seems to call for a bit more, somehow.
So, should I ask mutual friends if they have his postal address? Or settle for another e-card? Or simply not send a card?
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
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