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It is time for peace to break out  [message #33081] Fri, 23 June 2006 11:32 Go to previous message
timmy

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I have now watched and learnt much from the interchange between Marc and Cossie. I am not deliovering a judgement or a verdict, but I am making an observation, and one which I hope will be heeded.

This messageboard is intended as a virtual place where people may being their troubles, consider making friendships and also become comfortable enough to discuss their pain.

It is, if you like, a quiet haven, an oasis, where friends who do not really know each other, can present themselves as they choose to present themselves, to other people in the same boat.

When we discuss pain, we are hurting. Sometimes we don't even know why we are hurting. And those times are the times when we may make posts that we genuinely wish we had not. And, sometimes we get backed into or back ourselves into corners we never realised were there and cannot extricate ourselves simply because we were backed in there.

My feeling is that, when we hurt, we should try to trust each other enough to explain why we are hurting, rather than showing we hurt by a post. My observation is not just for Marc, though, Marc, I know you will take it personally. And the observation is not an attack in any way. And it is for all who hurt and who are abrupt

But I observe that, when you hurt, we all hurt, because of the way you post "at" us rather than "to us. I don't think we deserve that. And yet we none of us know what you, any of you, suffer at the time you post. IN many ways this observation is now a request.

Turn to us and ask for what you need. Do not poke us with a sharp stick. We may be wholly unable to help, but we are wholly able to listen.


Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
 
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