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Time for Reflection  [message #38745] Tue, 14 November 2006 10:07 Go to previous message
Nigel is currently offline  Nigel

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Over the past few weeks the message board has for various reasons suffered a great deal of turbulence. Unfortunately all of us who have contributed to either a greater or lesser degree have either intentionally or inadvertently added to that turbulence, and I write this fully cognisant of my own contributions and do not deny that at times they are intentionally provocative while sometimes I am truly surprised at the heat they generate. It is a truth of nature that energy and heat are inextricably combined and one cause of heat is friction. Without heat nothing would happen; to put it another way without friction or heat this message board would not exist. We must therefore accept friction, or to put it another way differences of opinion and view.

Unfortunately it is quickly approaching crisis point.

Noticeable is the fact that much of this misunderstanding arises through badly read (misunderstood) or badly written English and for that reason alone it is of the utmost importance that contributors take care in reading and composing posts.

However, there is also another reason.

Here in this place of safety we have a community, a family. Some of us know each other personally; most know other contributors only through this board. However, at the centre of our community is the message board, and that is the important point. It reaches out to its contributors on the circumference and hopefully provides them with the comfort, mental stimulation or entertainment they seek, and in return they offer to the board. Once any part of the circumference attempts to occupy the centre, the equilibrium is destroyed. That is the danger that faces us for this turbulence has largely been caused by contributors attempting to place themselves at the centre. I hinted so much in a thread headed ‘Drama Queens’.

We must recognise the grand design of things. If one of us leaves, sad as that decision might be, he will be replaced by another. That is the way of the world. Death is compensated for by birth. The individual is not so important as we would like, perhaps sentimentally, to think. However, if the whole implodes, or self-destructs, that will be an irreplaceable loss.

This board is home to many disparate contributors. The umbrella is our ‘gayness’ or sympathy towards the gay world. Under that umbrella are serious ideas, political, social, international, from theists, atheists, agnostics and the uninterested; those with a humorous outlook on life, those with an earnest view. As in a family teasing and arguments will inevitably take place. That’s healthy, but with due regard to the board’s Netiqutte.

I earnestly ask for a period of reflection and perhaps for some modesty in a reduction in the view of our self-importance.

With hugs, as ever, my brothers
Nigel.


I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.

…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
 
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