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This ws triggered by a sentence in the Satinover article (referenced in the "for discussion" thread) - "maybe it was just that his own needs were unique enough that his father, a decent man, could never quite find the right way to relate to him " True enough, if not finding the right way means verbal, physical, and emotional abuse.
I know that this isn't the case for everyone (tho' it was for me), and is certainly not a cause of my homosexuality (although possibly a result of it). But it got me to thinking about rejection in a broader sense. One of my favourite bits in one of my favourite gay stories (Brew Maxwell's Foley-Mashburn Saga) has a character saying "When you're rejected like I was, you can do one of two things. You can consider yourself a reject and give up, or you can fight to be number one. I chose to fight. It was a conscious choice, and I'm glad I made it, "
I think I made the same choice, although for much of my life it wasn't conscious. It accounts for the years I spent as a workaholic, the extreme drive I seemed to have to earn the respect of professional colleagues, and probably my unwillingness to do things that I was lousy at but might be fun (like most sports). It probably also accounts for my need to feel that I am in some sense contributing to society ...
So, I wondered if anyone else here who has experience of rejection had had this kind of reaction, or indeed any other reaction to it.
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
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Rejection.
By: NW on Mon, 20 November 2006 01:44 |
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Re: Rejection.
By: Teddy on Mon, 20 November 2006 04:22 |
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Re: Rejection.
By: NW on Mon, 20 November 2006 13:15 |
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You made me think, NW ...
By: cossie on Mon, 20 November 2006 04:42 |
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This is bullshit and quackery too.
By: timmy on Mon, 20 November 2006 07:14 |
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Re: This is bullshit and quackery too.
By: NW on Mon, 20 November 2006 11:32 |
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Cuddling........
By: marc on Mon, 20 November 2006 12:09 |
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Family dynamics
By: Nigel on Mon, 20 November 2006 09:14 |
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Re: Family dynamics
By: NW on Mon, 20 November 2006 13:52 |
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Re: Rejection.
By: marc on Mon, 20 November 2006 11:19 |
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And then later on.......
By: marc on Mon, 20 November 2006 11:24 |
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Re: Rejection.
By: Deeej on Mon, 20 November 2006 14:23 |
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