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2 Types of gay? [message #39075]

Tue, 21 November 2006 06:14

saben

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As much as I try to think of being gay as being just a single sexuality, the more I meet other gay people the more I find it hard to categorise the seeming 2-way division into a single category. Top vs Bottom. Older-liking vs Younger-liking. Fem vs Straight-acting. As much as I try to see these as options that all gay men have, almost exclusively people that like older guys, prefer being "bottom" and act more femininely than their "top" counterparts. Generally "bottoms" also know they are gay from a younger age and have a different type of angst to what a "top" might have when coming out.

Do you guys think it is possible, maybe even likely that there is a biological division between "tops" and "bottoms". Because even with versatile gays there seems to be a definite preference.

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		2 Types of gay? By: saben on Tue, 21 November 2006 06:14
		One or a hundred ? By: NW on Tue, 21 November 2006 07:33
		Re: 2 Types of gay? By: timmy on Tue, 21 November 2006 07:56
		Re: 2 Types of gay? By: timmy on Tue, 21 November 2006 08:19
		Re: 2 Types of gay? By: saben on Tue, 21 November 2006 13:50
		Re: 2 Types of gay? By: timmy on Tue, 21 November 2006 15:29
		Re: 2 Types of gay? By: Deeej on Tue, 21 November 2006 10:37
		One thing that is I would expect ... By: Deeej on Tue, 21 November 2006 13:49
		Re: One thing that is I would expect ... By: saben on Tue, 21 November 2006 13:57
		Re: One thing that is I would expect ... By: Deeej on Tue, 21 November 2006 14:02
		Re: One thing that is I would expect ... By: saben on Tue, 21 November 2006 14:18
		Ah By: Deeej on Tue, 21 November 2006 15:46
		Re: Ah By: NW on Tue, 21 November 2006 16:23
		Re: Ah By: timmy on Wed, 22 November 2006 00:19
		Re: Ah By: NW on Wed, 22 November 2006 00:56
		Re: Ah By: Deeej on Wed, 22 November 2006 01:13
		It's that dizzy, dancing way you feel! By: cossie on Wed, 22 November 2006 02:05
		Re: It's that dizzy, dancing way you feel! By: Aussie on Wed, 22 November 2006 03:51
		Aaarrrggh! The very thought makes me ill! By: cossie on Thu, 23 November 2006 01:00
		Re: Aaarrrggh! The very thought makes me ill! By: Nigel on Thu, 23 November 2006 08:31
		Re: It's that dizzy, dancing way you feel! By: arich on Wed, 22 November 2006 12:06
		Beards By: Deeej on Wed, 22 November 2006 15:36
		Re: Beards By: Nigel on Thu, 23 November 2006 08:23
		Re: Beards By: Aussie on Thu, 23 November 2006 09:25
		Re: Beards By: Jedediah on Thu, 23 November 2006 15:54
		Re: Beards By: Aussie on Thu, 23 November 2006 16:15
		Re: Beards By: Jedediah on Thu, 23 November 2006 17:45
		Re: Beards By: Aussie on Thu, 23 November 2006 21:05
		Re: Ah By: timmy on Wed, 22 November 2006 08:10
		Falling in love By: Nigel on Wed, 22 November 2006 08:44
		Re: Falling in love By: Deeej on Wed, 22 November 2006 15:21
		Spock By: Nigel on Thu, 23 November 2006 08:21
		Re: One thing that is I would expect ... By: NW on Tue, 21 November 2006 16:17
		Re: One thing that is I would expect ... By: timmy on Tue, 21 November 2006 17:42
		Re: One thing that is I would expect ... By: timmy on Tue, 21 November 2006 17:57
		Re: 2 Types of gay? By: arich on Tue, 21 November 2006 12:32
		Re: 2 Types of gay? By: saben on Tue, 21 November 2006 13:41
		Re: 2 Types of gay? By: timmy on Tue, 21 November 2006 22:09
		Re: 2 Types of gay? By: Deeej on Tue, 21 November 2006 22:15
		Re: 2 Types of gay? By: timmy on Tue, 21 November 2006 22:39
		In two successive posts ... By: cossie on Wed, 22 November 2006 01:47
		Re: In two successive posts ... By: saben on Wed, 22 November 2006 03:59
		Re: In two successive posts ... By: NW on Wed, 22 November 2006 14:39
		Just a couple of extra points ... By: cossie on Thu, 23 November 2006 01:39
		Re: In two successive posts ... By: dartagnon on Thu, 23 November 2006 06:55
		On sorts of being gay ... By: NW on Thu, 23 November 2006 03:03
		Re: On sorts of being gay ... By: arich on Thu, 23 November 2006 16:57
		Re: On sorts of being gay ... By: NW on Thu, 23 November 2006 17:15
		Re: On sorts of being gay ... By: arich on Fri, 24 November 2006 01:16
		To quote Bob Dylan ... By: cossie on Fri, 24 November 2006 04:24
		Re: To quote Bob Dylan ... By: arich on Fri, 24 November 2006 09:27
		Re: 2 Types of gay? By: electroken on Tue, 28 November 2006 07:50
		I guess you need Saben to reply here ... By: cossie on Wed, 29 November 2006 04:20
		Re: I guess you need Saben to reply here ... By: electroken on Wed, 29 November 2006 06:17
		Re: 2 Types of gay? By: saben on Fri, 01 December 2006 07:25

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