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rape and guilt  [message #41711] Sat, 07 April 2007 22:13 Go to previous message
timmy

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Probably this is only something the victim truly understands, though others can empathise.

I had an email the other day from a young man who has been raped as a young boy. I have, as well as I am able, tried to stand in his shoes and walk with him.

I do not yet know his state of mind over the rape, but he would not have mentioned it had it not been important for him to do so.

Most of us here have the fortune not to have received abuse. Even so we might have some useful thoughts for him. I am sure he reads the board.

My own concerns are to demonstrate to him that, whoever raped him, he was not able to alter the circumstances leading to the assault, nor the assault itself, but that he can control his reaction to the assault.


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