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Increasingly out [message #43681]

Mon, 02 July 2007 14:20

timmy

Has no life at all

Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13828

As I go through my life I am increasingly out to people. And yet I wonder why I am. Why do I need to be?

I was talking to a cousin I see very rarely on the way back from the hospital yesterday. We were discussing my mother, her mother, and so much else. I was busy trying not to cry, so was she. We managed ok. We got on to our individual upbringings. She had challenges I (naturally) never knew about. I had ones that she (naturally) never knew about. We started to trade challenges.

It's funny. I can tell her, but not her mother (her mother can be oversensitive about sexual matters). I have another cousin who is a habitual cross dresser. He has a business selling ladies requisites to gentlemen. She and I find that pretty unexciting. The rest of the family finds it scandalous and deeply hurtful - to them - and embarrassing.

So there are people I "am allowed" to tell and people I am not allowed to tell. There will come a point when I choose to tell one or two on the "not allowed" list, but that will be on purpose and as a hand grenade when they are being particularly homophobic.

I'm very interested in other people's feelings about my, or their circumstances. Why they are out and "how far out", why they remain in the closet and whether their concerns are real or imagined.

[Updated on: Mon, 02 July 2007 14:27]

Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School

		Increasingly out By: timmy on Mon, 02 July 2007 14:20
		Re: Increasingly out By: Roger on Mon, 02 July 2007 14:33
		Re: Increasingly out By: timmy on Mon, 02 July 2007 14:44
		The why's and reasons of being out....... By: marc on Mon, 02 July 2007 14:36
		Any more thoughts? By: timmy on Tue, 03 July 2007 15:10
		Re: Any more thoughts? By: Roger on Tue, 03 July 2007 16:27
		Re: Any more thoughts? By: electroken on Wed, 04 July 2007 15:04
		Re: Any more thoughts? By: Deeej on Wed, 04 July 2007 15:51
		Re: Any more thoughts? By: timmy on Wed, 04 July 2007 17:02
		Re: Any more thoughts? By: Deeej on Wed, 04 July 2007 18:48
		Re: Any more thoughts? By: timmy on Wed, 04 July 2007 21:40
		Re: Any more thoughts? By: Deeej on Wed, 04 July 2007 22:47
		Re: Any more thoughts? By: saben on Sat, 07 July 2007 01:36
		Re: Any more thoughts? By: Deeej on Wed, 04 July 2007 22:49
		Why is it a question of 'out' or 'not out'? By: Deeej on Tue, 03 July 2007 16:27
		Re: Why is it a question of 'out' or 'not out'? By: timmy on Tue, 03 July 2007 21:54
		Re: Why is it a question of 'out' or 'not out'? By: Deeej on Tue, 03 July 2007 22:47
		Re: Why is it a question of 'out' or 'not out'? By: electroken on Thu, 05 July 2007 12:52
		Re: Increasingly out By: arich on Tue, 03 July 2007 17:45
		Re: Increasingly out By: NW on Tue, 03 July 2007 18:20
		I agree.... By: marc on Tue, 03 July 2007 19:05
		Re: Increasingly out By: kupuna on Tue, 03 July 2007 22:07
		Dropping the bomb By: timmy on Wed, 04 July 2007 06:14
		Re: Dropping the bomb By: marc on Wed, 04 July 2007 08:06
		Re: Dropping the bomb By: CallMePaul on Wed, 04 July 2007 19:57
		Re: Increasingly out By: Josh on Wed, 04 July 2007 15:53
		Re: Increasingly out By: timmy on Wed, 04 July 2007 17:04
		Re: Increasingly out By: saben on Sat, 07 July 2007 01:28
		Re: Increasingly out By: saben on Sat, 07 July 2007 01:20

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