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Attraction  [message #45950] Thu, 11 October 2007 21:19 Go to previous message
timmy

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I've been doing a lot of thinking about initial attraction. I am going to postulate, for you to tear to shreds, my thoughts. In this I am using the word "attractive" in its least sexual sense, as an adjective that means that we are attracted (wish to be close) to them.

I think that, when we see an attractive person, we probably do not think "Sex!". I think we think more about wanting to be in some way associated with that person, perhaps as a friend, perhaps as a companion, perhaps just to talk to them or be near them. But I do not think we immediately undress them and engage in sexual acts (in our heads).

Indeed one may see an attractive minor child and recognise that they have all the attributes except being sexually interesting of an attractive adult. In this there is no perversion, simply an aesthetic recognition of this simple attractiveness.

Sex then enters our heads ether because we have got to know them, or because we have not, and we fantasise about them. Except I hope we do not fantasise about the minor child as a minor child!


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