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BDSM &c  [message #46928] Wed, 14 November 2007 19:58 Go to previous message
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I'm bothered by bondage and sadism and masochism. I think it is because sex, for me, is about being nice to people. Anything which approaches cruelty, involves pain or coercion seems to me a perversion of an instinct (sex) that need not have any downside.
The Mormon guy whose appeal for advice appears in another thread seemed to be completely inexperienced and I worried that if he did what he was considering, and became a slave and got together with a Master, he would never learn how two lovers can achieve ecstasy by being nice to each other. I think it might make it hard for him ever to discover sexual love.
I was a *very* late developer and was (I think) extremely lucky that my early experience didn't include anything that hurt me or my partner in sex (I sadly didn't ever have a male 'partner' involving commitment to each other).
I'm starting this thread partly because I read the 'Story of Tim' by Jack Rowan on the IOMFATS site and, despite being disturbed by it I stuck with it to the end. I wrote to Timmy and the author about it but didn't really have anything back to assuage my worries.]What do other people think?
Anthony
 
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