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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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I've been thinking about this a lot. When unthinking str8 folks meet gay couples they tend to wonder "Who is the man and who is the woman?" And they are programmed to pigeonhole gay folks by heterosexual stereotypes.
We gay folk are not wonderful, sometimes, at avoiding stereotypical roles. "Obviously" the flaming queen" is the girl! Only that is by no means always the case!
And, pretty obviously, neither of two boys is a "girl"!
And, of course, what is great one way round one night is great the other way round the next night. And by no means every gay couple inserts a penis in an anus.
And then there's this "Tops are dominant, bottoms are submissive" thing.
I will bet that there are as many dominant bottoms and submissive ones! That's gut feel, not a sample!
There will be people with wholly valid experiences who agree with my thoughts, and people with other valid experiences that differ.
What I hope to do is to get people thinking about it, and talking about it.
Why?
Well, it is my own discomfort as I discovered that I am a natural bottom. I was worried that made me less of a man, somehow. A great deal of thought later I realised that it just makes me a man. But I felt unhappy until I worked it out.
I was 48 when I worked it out!
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Top/Bottom is not the same as Dominant/Sub, nor "boy"/"girl"
By: timmy on Thu, 27 December 2007 22:15 |
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Re: Top/Bottom
By: unsui on Fri, 28 December 2007 03:56 |
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Re: Top/Bottom
By: timmy on Fri, 28 December 2007 10:09 |
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Re: Top/Bottom
By: aqualino on Fri, 28 December 2007 18:49 |
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Re: Top/Bottom
By: timmy on Fri, 28 December 2007 22:31 |
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Re: Top/Bottom
By: aqualino on Sat, 29 December 2007 01:30 |
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Re: Top/Bottom
By: Deeej on Sat, 29 December 2007 02:06 |
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Re: Top/Bottom
By: aqualino on Sat, 29 December 2007 04:01 |
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Re: Top/Bottom is not the same as Dominant/Sub, nor "boy"/"g
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Re: Top/Bottom is not the same as Dominant/Sub, nor "boy"/"g
By: aqualino on Sat, 29 December 2007 04:06 |
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Re: Top/Bottom is not the same as Dominant/Sub, nor "boy"/"g
By: timmy on Sat, 29 December 2007 09:22 |
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Re: Top/Bottom is not the same as Dominant/Sub, nor "boy"/"g
By: acam on Sat, 29 December 2007 20:16 |
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Re: Top/Bottom is not the same as Dominant/Sub, nor "boy"/"g
By: timmy on Sat, 29 December 2007 21:03 |
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Re: Top/Bottom is not the same as Dominant/Sub, nor "boy"/"g
By: NW on Tue, 01 January 2008 15:19 |
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Re: Top/Bottom is not the same as Dominant/Sub, nor "boy"/"g
By: saben on Thu, 03 January 2008 04:17 |
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Re: Top/Bottom is not the same as Dominant/Sub, nor "boy"/"g
By: acam on Tue, 01 January 2008 18:02 |
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Re: Top/Bottom
By: saben on Thu, 03 January 2008 04:09 |
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Re: Top/Bottom
By: saben on Thu, 03 January 2008 04:21 |
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Re: Top/Bottom
By: acam on Fri, 04 January 2008 20:30 |
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Re: Top/Bottom
By: jack on Fri, 04 January 2008 23:34 |
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Re: Top/Bottom is not the same as Dominant/Sub, nor "boy"/"g
By: timmy on Sat, 05 January 2008 21:14 |
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Re: Top/Bottom is not the same as Dominant/Sub, nor "boy"/"g
By: JimB on Sun, 06 January 2008 04:10 |
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Re: Top/Bottom is not the same as Dominant/Sub, nor "boy"/"g
By: dunfyn on Sun, 06 January 2008 17:17 |
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Re: Top/Bottom is not the same as Dominant/Sub, nor "boy"/"g
By: saben on Mon, 07 January 2008 04:16 |
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