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Michael-Kent Dobison is currently offline  Michael-Kent Dobison

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Hey all,

It has been quite some time now and I see that yuo have all been quite busy typing your fingers to the bone Wink

Well, like I said I'm not quite sure how this is going to go down, but as yo all know I am always up for a good, CLEAN, discussion. So here goes...

One of my friend is dating a young guy, less than half her age ( YES he is over the permitted age ) and he told her the other night that he loves her. When she told me this I was quite shocked because he really did not strike me as the type of guy to say something like that.
Now to really mix things up he is "Bi" and has been hurt by another guy once before, so instantly this worried me.

My friend asked what she should do, and for the first time in a long time I was left speachless Confused??
I pondered the though for about two days and eventualy wrote the following reply to her...
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The love of another will never be equal to the love of any other. Just as love given is never, and will never, be equal to the love received. Love is individual.

Love is only comparative to its own. Only once one has found the origin of love, can one find its reason. Reasoning with love can be complicated. One needs to conceptualise the view of the other, long before one can fathom any kind of opposition.

Hiding behind love is not an excuse nor is it excusable. It can never be taken at face value, and given too much time to contemplate its way, it can become a warped facet of twisted lies and broken hearts.

The only reason why revenge is cold, is because love extinguished the flame.

A lovers squabble is left destitute on the baron wastelands of continued conflict of Love and War.
Surrounded by the fear of isolation and loneliness. Betrayed by the winds of change and forgotten by the gods of control.
Reserved by the keepers of time, to taunt and agonise the forlorn should of the enraged forgiver.

For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Action vs. Reaction, is only a matter of Strength vs. Knowledge. An action can never loose, it can only evolve.

An action is dependant on a situation as well as an emotion. However, it is independent of any thought.

A broken heart seeks an opposite reaction, greater than the original action. Until such a time as this opposing reaction is found, the broken hearts action will continue to gather strength and loose logic.

One needs to now know what the opposing action is, before one can find it. Opposition is the greatest weapon of mass destruction on a universal scale.

Thus, and opposite reaction, can also be classed as an action unto its own. Catch 22... It's the eternal circle of life in action.

Knowledge is power.
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Firstly, does this make any kind of sense to anyone?
Secondly, was I right in saying what I did to her?

We have that kind of friendship where no topic is taboo, and if one of us has something to say than we say it ( better to tell than to hurt keeping secrets, is how we look at it )

But now I think what I said to her may have been tainted by the fact that I also quite like this younger guy. More as a friend at the moment, but the more time that I spend with him, the more I seem to be attracted to me. And I only though about this after I sent her the email.

I would like some in-put on this one from all of you.

Thanks guys.

Luvies
MIKE;-D


"And so the lion fell in love with the Lamb"
"What a stupid Lamb"
"What a sick, masochistic lion"
 
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