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When my daughters were growing up and started to bring home boyfriends we told them that if they started to have sex before they were sixteen and they were found out there was some danger that social services would take them away from their parents - so don't do it or don't get caught. But once they were sixteen they could bring a boyfriend home and have him stay the night in their bed (if they really liked him that much). And we provided unlimited condoms. And one daughter was sixteen in 1982 and the other in 1983. And they did bring boyfriends home. And their choice of boyfriend was sometimes far from wise and they both have been divorced.
I don't take any credit for this - not the divorces, silly - (I do think it is creditable) because, as a father with daughters, I felt the urge to protect them. Sylvia persuaded me by reminding me how life was for us at sixteen, when the urges are strongest. It looked to both of us like a sexual desert with no hope of relief for years! And, for Sylvia, who didn't do national service in the navy with the opportunities that provided it was a ten year desert.
I don't know how things would have gone if we had behaved differently. As it was we had almost no teenage tantrums. Life stayed on an even keel and we stayed friends - and we all live within three miles now.
I don't know of any other parents who did this or would do it now. I haven't even asked my daughters whether they intend to do the same. Their eldest children are now both eleven, so it won't be long . . . .
And of course we would have done the same if either had been gay. I'm sure that no difference would be imposed on our grandchildren that depends on whether they are gay or straight or something else. There are lots of parents who do something like this in the stories on thise site. Are there any in real life?
Does anyone in this place of safety think we did wrong? What do you all think about it?
Love,
Anthony
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