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What I want to do with him.....  [message #52571] Mon, 25 August 2008 22:17 Go to previous message
timmy

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I am finding the answer to this question less obvious as I think about it.

I've been considering a theoretical situation. As you read it, please place yourself in the first person singular and tell us what your thoughts are. The question hinges around a meeting and an attraction. I may not describe it as well as I hope. Bear with me!

BEGINS
I am in a room full of people. Across the room I see a face. I am attracted to faces first and foremost. The face is of a beautiful boy (please choose the age group you wish your experience to be with), we are the same age. His eyes flash and catch mine. He's shy and looks away, but keeps looking back. Me too. If I knew him I'd say I was in love. In reality I am so attracted to him that it hurts. He is gay, that is a given. I want to get to know him, and, with luck, far more. I walk over to him and we start to talk.
ENDS

So there is the scene. But what do I want to do with him? Or do I want to do it to him? Or do I want him to take control of the agenda? That's the part I've never understood. I desperately want something, but what?

The reason I'm asking this is to find out if I am alone in not knowing what on earth I want to happen next.


Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
 
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