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Relationships between adults and children need not be sexual  [message #53154] Fri, 12 September 2008 19:36 Go to previous message
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Nonetheless, Roger and Michael raise an interesting topic.

Before even considering a sexual relationship (yes, it is unlawful pretty much anywhere, that is not the topic under discussion), look at social relationships. Many adult/child relationships are beneficial; some are absolutely not.

To me that is the right place to start. From the child's perspective, is this social relationship beneficial? What does the adult bring to the relationship that the child needs and is better for receiving from the adult? Is the relationship socially beneficial to the adult? Are the two, together, 'better' in whatever way you choose to define it than each is solo? What is the state of equality of the child vs the adult in the relationship? Is the child enthralled by the adult rather than the friend of the adult? What degree of hero worship is present?

Before there can be any hypothetical consideration about a sexual relationship, surely there must be a positive answer to one or more of those (and other) questions? And surely a sexual relationship need not be, should not be, the inevitable outcome of adult and child relationships?

[This could get very long winded, so I'm leaving it at that for now. I'll add my thoughts on a sexual relationship later.]


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