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Sat, 13 September 2008 08:21

Nigel

On fire!

Location: England
Registered: November 2003
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At the moment we, the contributors of the board, are tearing ourselves apart over one lost sheep. In some ways it is regrettable, but let's look at this logically.

Principally this is a discussion board. Therefore it is going to display a multitude of opinions and those opinions will upset somebody. In the best of all possible worlds we would approach them coolly and logically. However, by their very nature some will approach the arguments intellectually, some emotionally. Look at your own families. There are arguments, loss of temper, pets, put downs, but somehow you remain a family. You learn out of necessity to tolerate / put up with things. It doesn't usually break the family up.

Now let's go to the other end of the scale. If everyone agreed, if everyone were nice to everyone else all the time, I would argue that would bring an end to the board quicker than all the arguments because it would produce mediocrity and indifference. Newton had something to say about it in his laws of dynamics. Work produces friction, produces heat. No friction = no heat = no work. On another forum I visit no one is allowed to criticise. The post is deleted and the poster gets a slap on the wrist. The result is having to plough through interminable rubbish to glean a little quality eventually.

Yes, we must guard against anyone going OTT, but absolute nicety would do more damage to the board in the long run. Look at the length of the present threads. Look at the times when there is nothing controversial. We can go a day without a new contribution until Timmy tries to throw a spanner in the works to get things going. And when he is on holiday that is the quietest time of all and then there is the danger that the board will fail.

Therefore let's continue these arguments with full conviction, gusto and the slightest touch on the tiller when necessary.

Cossie, I don't know whether you are lurking out there. I hope you are well now and if you are, come back. Your measured input is needed.

Hugs
Nigel

I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.

…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.

		In some ways it's regrettable, but… By: Nigel on Sat, 13 September 2008 08:21
		Niceness is not required By: timmy on Sat, 13 September 2008 08:30
		Re: Niceness is not required By: marc on Sat, 13 September 2008 09:56
		Re: Niceness is not required By: NW on Sat, 13 September 2008 10:27
		Re: Niceness is not required By: marc on Sat, 13 September 2008 10:39
		The alternative By: timmy on Sat, 13 September 2008 11:29
		Re: The alternative By: marc on Sat, 13 September 2008 12:22
		I do not think so, no. By: timmy on Sat, 13 September 2008 12:46
		Re: I do not think so, no. By: marc on Sat, 13 September 2008 12:56
		Re: I do not think so, no. By: NW on Sat, 13 September 2008 13:09
		Re: I do not think so, no. By: marc on Sat, 13 September 2008 13:17
		Perhaps the way you act creates the burn? By: timmy on Sat, 13 September 2008 13:35
		Re: Perhaps the way you act creates the burn? By: marc on Sat, 13 September 2008 14:02
		You choose. By: timmy on Sat, 13 September 2008 14:46
		Re: You choose. By: marc on Sat, 13 September 2008 15:13
		Re: You choose. By: timmy on Sat, 13 September 2008 15:18
		Re: You choose. By: marc on Sat, 13 September 2008 15:23
		You know, I prefer other shoes By: timmy on Sat, 13 September 2008 15:55
		Re: You know, I prefer other shoes By: marc on Sat, 13 September 2008 16:34
		Re: You know, I prefer other shoes By: JimB on Sat, 13 September 2008 17:36
		Re: You know, I prefer other shoes By: marc on Sat, 13 September 2008 17:42
		please can we not pursue that line, at least for now? By: timmy on Sat, 13 September 2008 17:46
		Re: please can we not pursue that line, at least for now? By: marc on Sat, 13 September 2008 17:49
		No worries, let's just drop this track By: timmy on Sat, 13 September 2008 17:53
		Well, yes and no. By: timmy on Sat, 13 September 2008 17:44
		The answer is easy and hard. Who will help me help Marc? By: timmy on Sat, 13 September 2008 17:40
		Re: The answer is easy and hard. Who will help me help Marc? By: Fingolfin on Tue, 16 September 2008 09:46
		Bedtime confessions By: acam on Tue, 16 September 2008 11:03
		Re: I do not think so, no. By: NW on Sat, 13 September 2008 13:50
		Re: I do not think so, no. By: marc on Sat, 13 September 2008 14:07
		Re: I do not think so, no. By: timmy on Sat, 13 September 2008 13:16
		Re: I do not think so, no. By: marc on Sat, 13 September 2008 13:18
		Re: I do not think so, no. By: timmy on Sat, 13 September 2008 18:14
		Re: In some ways it's regrettable, but… By: John.. on Sat, 13 September 2008 18:09
		Re: In some ways it's regrettable, but… By: John.. on Sat, 13 September 2008 18:17
		Edited out for sure By: timmy on Sat, 13 September 2008 18:20
		Re: Edited out for sure By: John.. on Sat, 13 September 2008 18:27

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