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"Internalised homophobia"  [message #54140] Wed, 15 October 2008 10:49 Go to previous message
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This has kinda cropped up on the "marriage" thread, but I thought it was an important subject in its own right.

Adam posted "I'm shocked and somewhat dismayed that anyone posting on this board would not be in favor of full marriage equality, and instead would accept a term that continues to divide gay and lesbian individuals, labeling their committed relationships as anything other than "normal". I'm disappointed."

I'd previously posted "I'm afraid that I think not calling legally-recognised gay partnerships "marriage" is a concession to bigotry, and the readiness of many gay men to settle for anything less suggests, to me, that - deep down - there may be niggling feeling that as gay men we are either in some way inferior, or at least "different". We all suffer from this to some extent, but we need to face up to it and root it out!

Am I right in thinking that it's almost impossible for gay men - at least those of middle age or older - not have taken on board some of the negative stuff about homosexuals that we grew up with? Every now and then I pull myself up short when I realise that my words or actions show some kind of buying-in to negative stereotyping that I actually know isn't true or valid!

What do others think? And am I right in suspecting that people who are now in their teens and early 20s have internalised a lot less of this crap?


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