I expect simple behaviours here. Friendship, and love. Any advice should be from the perspective of the person asking, not the person giving! We have had to make new membership moderated to combat the huge number of spammers who register
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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I think it is likely that no-one here condones major unlawful acts. In that list I would include robbery, assault (including rape), and other similar acts.
I would not be including parking offences, failure to keep off the grass, etc.
There is a vast difference between discussing them and participating in them. I am content to discuss child pornography until the cows come home. I do not condone the making of it, and I am ambivalent to the viewing of it where money does not change hands between the viewer and the creator (ie no profit is made) unless the viewer actively encourages the creator.
I expect there is a "truth" about desensitising versus encouraging.
Certainly the authorities whose job it is to view the materials do become desensitised to it, but that does not encourage them to create it or to recreate the acts they see.
My view is that if someone is going to hurt a child then they will hurt that child. No pictures (etc) are likely to make that person have a different sexual or power appetite. But what do I know? I don't prey on anyone, let alone kids! So it's just a view.
Why didn't I approach the 10 year old friend of my son's who flirted with me outrageously? He was cute, after all, and seemed to know what he was "doing".
The answer is because I view it as wrong. This is my personal morality which happens to be congruent with the law.
What I do find bizarre is that I can lawfully have sex with a 16 year old, but may not see pictures of him naked!
So, at what point is the offence against morality? The law is clear, but morality is not.