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The hows and whys of Dating [message #55801]

Wed, 18 February 2009 09:07

timmy

Has no life at all

Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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One thing we never seem to cover is dating.

I don't see any difference between dating whether we are gay or straight. I see it as having a dummy run to see if you might be compatible for the long haul. And I see that it may need many dummy runs before you get it "right".

The only difference I see is that it is harder, in a field of potential partners, to identify those who might be gay, let alone those who might be compatible, from the straight boys.

I have pretty much never dated. Seriously. I may have been married for almost 30 years, but we met, stars burst in the sky, and that was it. Before that I fucked, and only with girls. That involved very little subtlety. Or I was alone and lonely. This means I can't advise, really.

It's just that I have a young friend who is gay and who could do with pointers, not only on where and how to find gay young men who do not just want a quickie in the gent's toilet out the back of the bar. Or, rather, wants to meet those who do not want one at all. He hopes very much to meet and date gay young men who are like he is: gentle, sweet, kind, romantic and wanting a lifetime of love.

I have no knowledge of any of this. I need all of us to help. I know he wants sex, but he wants a potential relationship more, and probably first. An emotionless quickie is not for him. He's a lovely chap and is a great catch. He's brave as a lion and also somewhat self effacing.

Please help me to help him. He is in England and lives reasonably near me.

[Updated on: Wed, 18 February 2009 09:14]

Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School

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