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I recently got into an argument with a friend about labels (gay/bi/straight, etc). He believes i'm a hypocrite for saying i'm gay, yet i would not mind having sex with a woman, provided there was some attraction and i genuinely had feelings for her. I was telling him about a girl i knew couple years ago. She was unique and we shared a bond like no other. She has been the only girl i ever wanted to take things further with. However, nothing ever happened. We parted and went seperate ways. Now a days, i am in a relationship with a guy.

He says he is gay, born gay, only wants guys, no exceptions! He says i'm confusing love and sexual desire. His example was that he also has a friend he loves dearly, but would never imagin being intimate with her. He also says i should either say i'm bi or not label myself at all. He believes i'm contradicting myself by saying i'm gay and also would not mind sex with a woman.

To me, sex is fluid. I do whatever feels good. As long as i have desire and love for that person, genitalia is not a factor for me. I also told him i didn't like labels. I feel like Macky...gay/bi/straight doesn't really define who i am. I told him the only reason i put a label on network websites is to let people know what type of lifestyle my current situation describes. It doesn't mean i'm restricting myself to a gay lifestyle. Somehow, he can't accept how all of this can be possible. I'm just a hypocrite for even saying i'm gay.

I was glad when i started reading some of the responses in the "Old gay guys together" thread. Some of you guys (the marry ones) would understand how any of this can be possible. My friend doesn't.


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