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No-one is correct. And this place is not as it should be  [message #56523] Tue, 28 April 2009 13:42 Go to previous message
timmy

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We do not have a monopoly on being correct. Even 5+5 only equals 10 in base 10 arithmetic, so statements that we make as a self evident truth actually reflect a conditional truth.

So I am often very frustrated here when we, myself sometimes included, make statements of truth that are not correct from another person's standpoint.

So by what right do we declare that our arguments are correct?

I have long held the view that this is not a place of debate, but is a place of discussion. Even that is not a truth. I cannot always make it so, thus it is a conditional truth, conditional upon my actions and your actions. But it is my will that it is so, as much as possible.

Our role, here, each of us, is not to roll over and play dead when argued against, but to use coherent and persuasive arguments to seek to alter the view of those with whom we discuss. Equally we are not to steamroller all other views.

If we are hurt by someone we have a right to say so. If we have hurt someone we have a duty to make amends, and our duty is to do both with as good a grace as we can muster, and, ideally, gentle words, all the harder to achieve if we are hurt. A failure on either side hurts this place.

And this place is not as it should be. It has often been happy and vibrant. It has often dealt with difficult subjects, and had good disagreements. It has often helped people.

But, at present, it is not happy, not vibrant, deals with no subjects and helps no-one.


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