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PARENTS...Let's just talk about them  [message #56644] Mon, 04 May 2009 15:06 Go to previous message
Macky is currently offline  Macky

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No denying it. We all have/had them. Some of us are them. But in reading about Dewalt's relief at being freed from his family, I thought this might be a fun thing to discuss right now. I left home at 18 so I suppose I had a pretty easy time of it. I never told my family about being gay. My mom was always cool. She never bothered me about my personal life. My dad, on the other hand, would constantly badger me about when I was going to get married. I always had this thing that I wanted to please him, but he was asking the impossible. I was more than a little conflicted and I can remember tearfully asking him to let me alone and storming out of the house. Finally, at 37, I did get married. It was not consciously to please my dad, but because I found a friend who I really enjoyed being around. I still enjoy her, and even more so for the past month after I came out to her. For the first time in my life, I feel that I have someone who knows me completely and loves me for what I am. I've found out that you can't feel loved unless someone really knows you. Never had that with my parents. My fault? Their fault? Would it have been better if I had come out to them? Hell, I have no idea. I lost my dad 2 years ago. Mom still hanging in there. Good relationships with sisters and brother. Only my wife really knows me, but things are better now than ever before.


Behold, how good and how pleasant it is
For brothers to dwell together in unity!
Ps 133:1 NASB
 
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