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My boyfriend and I whill have been going three months on wednsday, and thinking about the "a moral question?" post made me realize how much I seem to be the child in the relationship. Don't get me wrong, I'm in like with him still, and we've not yet had any bumps in the road so far, it seems the relationship is going well, but he just has so much more experience in - basically everything - than I seem to have. Is it wrong that our relationship seems unbalanced?
He only finished school four years ago, and he's only two years my senior, but he has been (and is still legally) married with a woman, and has a son somewhere in the country, he's been engaged to a previous boyfriend and co-owns a house with him, has his grade-8 music degree, a Masters in genetics and is studying towards his Bachelors of Chemistry, with education certification, competes relatively competitively in dancing, owns a car and has a steady job as the night-shift manager of a restaurant simultaneously, with experience teaching high-school as well. And I? Well, I have had none of those things, I don't even have my licence yet, only a learners drivers licence. Add in that my list of boyfriends have been rather short, and my sexual experience rather little compared to his, and I sometimes get kindof depressed with myself that I have so little real life experience to offer my relationship.
Sure I dress well, and I practically have to choose his clothes for him if I don't want to despair about his fashion crimes, and I organise and run his flat, wash clothes and dishes some days, organise and file his notes and fix the disorganisation in the place and call his maid and cook supper some days when I sleep over, but my talents still seem in rather short supply - and to be honest, I dislike the seemingly stereotipical feminine role I'm falling into here - despite the stereotyped gay male immage, I like and revel in my masculinity and have never been the high-voiced limp-wrist kind of gay man that some of my friends are.
Well, anyone have advice about what I should do? Not do? Change, before it becomes habit? I want to assert my equal-partnership, without critisizing or blame or arguments, and it seems quite difficult.
A truth told with bad intent
Beats all the lies you can invent
-William Blake
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